I think there can be a middle-of-the-road argument on this issue. I think it could true that generally speaking, men are more wired to seek sex and for women to be the 'gate-keepers', however, I think Moonlight Graham nailed it in how to go about opening up that gate. A decent man picks up the ok signals and proceeds bit by bit ensuring that there is reciprocity every step of the way.
I would agree wholeheartedly with one caveat. Your use of the term 'decent' is not entirely accurate in that not all men have the ability to pick up those signals to the same degree. We are not all born with the same degree of empathy or understanding for one another.
I like to drink. I like to get drunk. I wish I would not have to worry about being date-**** if I'm too drunk the way men don't have to worry about it. It's complete male privilege to think a drunk woman is partly responsible for a man's bad behaviour.
I partially disagree. I agree that it is a privilege straight men have that they know getting drunk is not going to get them jumped by some strange woman. Although to a great degree that's because they don't CARE if they get jumped by some strange woman while drunk. And again, I'm obviously generalizing. I also don't think anyone thinks a drunk woman is responsible for a man's bad behavior. On the other hand, I don't excuse a drunk woman for HER behavior, like so many others seem to.
Explain to me the fairness of the law on sexual consent while intoxicated. To me it seems deeply sexist and paternalistic. Women, however drunk THEY GET THEMSELVES, have no responsibility and indeed cannot even give legal consent to sex, even if they very strongly want to. However, the guy who is equally drunk may not use his own drunkenness as any kind of a defense as to why he had sex with her enthusiastic consent. How is that in any way fair or equal? Her drunkenness means she lacks the ability to form an intelligent thought but his drunkenness is deliberately not considered? Either HUMANS are responsible for getting themselves drunk and what they do when drunk or they're not. Which is it?
Note that if a man is drunk or takes
**** and deliberately murders someone, his being high or drunk can be used as a defense. Most likely he'll be found guilty of manslaughter instead. Yet in sex we place all the burden on the male and none on the female to drink responsibility and mind their behavior. That's entirely sexist. I acknowledge that man can be more consequence free if they get drunk in that women are not likely to 'take advantage' of that, but the fact women have more consequences means they ought to be more careful. Unfair? Sure. But that's the way things are.