Author Topic: When can you smack a kid in the head?  (Read 229 times)

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Offline Omni

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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #45 on: September 22, 2018, 01:06:36 am »
Yes...  youd be guessing.

So we're both guessing. Fair enough.

Offline Gorgeous Graham

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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #46 on: September 22, 2018, 08:17:29 am »
And Id venture a guess that great scientists, learned philosophers and great architects were spanked as a child and turned out to be some of our best citizens.

You don't need to hit or spank a child in order to discipline a child, to set firm limits etc.  Just like you don't need to hit a dog in order to train it well.
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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #47 on: September 22, 2018, 01:22:28 pm »
Everyone I know who feared their parents does not have a good relationship with them as an adult.

In my case, guilty as charged.  But I have to believe that there's some kind of a happy medium.

There are other ways to set boundaries and exert authority than violence and anyone who think the world is eff-ed up because we don't smack our children enough is an idiot who has no idea what parenting is about.

When this topic comes along it seems like people always end up talking about two extremes-- the tyrants whose children live in fear, or the spineless ones whose children are completely out of control.   I think most parents fit somewhere in the middle. I don't think most children live in fear of their parents, even those who have very strict parents.

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Offline ?Impact

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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #48 on: September 22, 2018, 01:43:52 pm »
even those who have very strict parents.

Being strict has absolutely nothing to do with inflicting violence.
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Offline SirJohn

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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #49 on: September 22, 2018, 03:02:11 pm »
This is not true.  Parents can have an impact, certainly, but anyone who thinks parents are entirely responsible for how kids turn out has their head up their ass.

You always take what someone says and then add in something like "ALL" or "ALWAYS" or "ENTIRELY".

People can fail for a variety of reasons, not always their own fault.

Paul Bernardo's parents failed. Donald Trump's parents failed. Was it entirely their fault? Wouldn't know.
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Offline Gorgeous Graham

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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #50 on: September 22, 2018, 05:43:00 pm »
This is not true.  Parents can have an impact, certainly, but anyone who thinks parents are entirely responsible for how kids turn out has their head up their ass.

I agree parents aren't entirely responsible, but they're very, very significant in how a kid turns out as an adult, more so than I realized in most of my life.  Almost always more than any other factor besides possibly genetics of personality.
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Offline wilber

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Re: When can you smack a kid in the head?
« Reply #51 on: September 22, 2018, 05:52:20 pm »
I'm convinced the friends a child chooses are very important factor in what direction they go, and that is something a parent can't really control.
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