Why "loaded"?
Because one facet of this topic encompasses a premise that certain people may be held to different standards based on groups they belong to. Like 'Affirmative Action', it's a loaded topic.
I thought it was interesting because "tone policing" came up at work recently and I also think it applies to general conversations, including on discussion boards.
'Tone policing' as a work topic is .... weird.
1. "Tone policing" means policing tone.
2. It emerged as a talking point because certain groups wanted to suppress emotional reactions by other groups, which is wrong.
3. As such, the understanding is that you should offer some leeway for emotional response to certain issues, eg. injustice.
Now, at WORK you are paid to suppress your emotions so tone policing is - far from being looked at as a cultural habit bearing discussion - ENCOURAGED.
When I was moderating, part of our weekly moderating meetings was how to teach the different personalities on the board to moderate themselves by posting articles and having discussions about things like this. It was actually pretty successful.
How so ?
What kind of environment do you work in ?
I'm very curious.