Of course you're not. You don't even think there's such thing as racism or bigotry either. Women have spilled countless amounts of ink on misogyny in our culture, but you don't think it's real. Unbelievable.
I think maybe he is quibbling over the descriptor "hate". Someone who thinks a woman should stay home, make sandwiches and fetch beer, and have sex with him whenever he feels like probably doesn't "hate" women. Somebody who thinks women are on a par with dogs and cattle probably doesn't "hate" women, in fact he probably loves dogs and cattle as well.
It's like homophobes quibbling over the term "homophobia" because they don't "fear" gays, they just hate them.
Regardless it's a pretty pointless diversion.
-k