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Offline kimmy

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #30 on: August 19, 2017, 12:12:43 pm »
I think a lot of it was intuition.  She was just always "different".  Not in a bad way.  She always detested anything "girly".  Hated dresses, dressing up, loved all kinds of sports, very active.  I'm a girly-girl, so I recognized at the age of 2 or 3 that she was not and immediately gave up my dreams of dressing up my little girl in dresses and hairstyles.  We found other ways to connect as she grew up.  I took more of an interest in her interests and we found things we enjoyed doing together. 

I have wondered about why it seems like lesbians are drawn to sports. Like, of something like 30-40 female fighters in UFC, at least 6 of them are openly gay, which is a lot compared to the population at large. I think it's similar in basketball and soccer.  I was very into sports, and there wasn't any kind of conscious decision to disavow girly things... it just somehow happened, and long before I had any conscious idea of sexual orientation or gender identity.




Because of the religion, I knew at some point I would have to make a decision - shunning is required if your child leaves the religion or is gay.  I knew I wasn't going to give up my child - she is perfect in every way, loving, sociable, accepting, compassionate and generous.  So I made sure we had a good relationship before we left the religion and that she knew without a doubt, I wasn't going to abandon her.

This is so wonderful!  :-*  If I recall you were with the JWs before, right?  Was it your daughter that made you decide to leave? Or were you thinking about it before?  Was it hard to leave?

She says she is actually Bi, but she hasn't had a boyfriend since her teens.  She prefers women.  She came out to me when she was 15, but only just came out to her dad last year (she's 23 now.)  He basically pretends she isn't gay, on the rare occasions when she sees him (He's still in the religion).  He calls her grilfreind her "freind" and she corrects him - "Dad, she's my GIRLFRIEND."

Give it time... he might get used to it.

 -k
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