Canadian Politics Today

So, uh...

 ...my boss's wife had this idea that she wants to introduce me to someone.   This isn't a first... lots of people have tried to play matchmaker for me.  What's unique is that this is the first time someone has offered to introduce me to a woman.

I have had a strange tingly feeling for about 4 hours.  Not at the idea of meeting potentially a new partner. This isn't my first rodeo. It's different, hard to put into words. I feel ... accepted?

People I have worked with for a while and feel comfortable with know that I prefer to be with women... my first serious girlfriend even came to a company Christmas party one year. Nobody has said anything negative, at least while I was in earshot. Everybody is polite and tolerant and I even get some good-natured teasing from time to time. So it's not that I have felt negative feelings from my co-workers.  But this was different. This wasn't just tolerance, this was someone reaching out and acknowledging and accepting and supporting me for what I am, and it felt strangely wonderful in a way I had never expected.  A half hour after we had talked, I replayed the conversation in my head, and almost cried from happiness or relief or something. I felt as if some kind of weight had been removed from me. I didn't know I needed this in my life.   

 -k

This made me weepy, that such a normal thing for straight people would be so rare for gays. 

Two of my grandaughters date girls.  Both in high school, from small BC towns, one in the Okanagan and one in Northern BC, both girls seem pretty open about it.  That made menfeel good and pesuades me that acceptance will become the norm.

I think the reason female same-sex relationships are more socially accepted is because men find the idea of two women together sexually arousing.  I know the word 'patriarchy' is frowned upon these days as non-existent, but the difference in accepting same-sex male relationships is a prime example of how we take a male view of acceptance.

Fortunately, I've noticed changing attitudes amongst the 20 year olds of today where a lot of bisexual men are able to be out compared to when I was 20.  I find it very encouraging.   

As for Kimmy's post, it's funny but recently I was fantasizing about what would happen if I took a same-sex partner to my client's annual Christmas party.  Everyone at that office is in a long-term, stable, heterosexual marriages (no divorces, no blended families). 

It pleased me when I realized nobody would care and how far we've come from 20 years ago where I don't think I would be comfortable in a professional environment if I were in a same-sex relationship. 

I forget though that I'm in a big city and it's still a little different in the smaller communities, so it's nice to hear that things are changing everywhere.  In 20 years from now I hope we're at a point where no matter the gender of the person and no matter the size of the community, these things don't matter.

I think it's becoming more and more accepted.  My daughter is gay.  I knew long before she came out to me when she was 15.

How did you know?  Was it intuition, or were there concrete things that you saw in her that told you?  This is interesting to me.


For me, there was never a Eureka moment...  I knew I was physically attracted to women from the time I was old enough to understand what physical attraction feels like. I had lots of opportunity to experiment as a teenager, but never thought of that as anything more than just play.  I guess for me the Eureka moment wasn't accepting that I felt attracted to women, it was in deciding that it didn't have to be just play, it could be more.

I was in a relationship with a wonderful man for a long time, and I think I could do that again if I met the right man. But that's not what I want right now. I didn't really even start sorting this stuff out until I was 24, and 10 years later I'm still not completely sure where I'm at.

I hope you meet someone wonderful, kimmy 

Thanks

 -k

I have a hard enough time with setting up people that
I don't do this anymore.

I am glad for your experience with your coworker.

I want to have sex with thousands of hot women.  Not at the same time mind you. 

Now back to our regular scheduled programming.

With the male on male sex scenes in "American Gods" and "Ozark" where even I (who was caught with smuggled Hustler magazines when I was 9 years old) can watch it is likely a sign that the times are a changing.

But yeah, I'd rather watch women getting it on, but "AG" and "Ozark" are much better stories with the gay sex in them than without.

ETA: for those wondering about this

https://moviepilot.com/p/american-gods-gay-sex-explicit-not-****/4270422

I just wrote a response to you but deleted it by mistake, grrr, I'll try and rephrase it...

That was a very graphic sex scene, gay or straight.  I don't remember seeing anything equivalent on TV for a straight sex scene.  Good for them.

Also, I remember reading some criticism from gay men when Brokeback Mountain came out that the way the sex was always depicted from behind is actually the way straight people think gay men have sex when in fact, more often than not, they have missionary sex just like heterosexuals.

So in the beginning of the scene in your link when they started off from behind I groaned remembering that criticism, but they even changed it up to get the true, non-hetero depiction of gay sex.

Good job director!

My daughter was gay.  She was in a relationship with a woman for years, and my wife and I were famous in their gay circle as the parents who didn't give a toss.  We weren't against it, and we weren't supportive.  We just didn't care.

Anyway, it turns out she was bi.  Now she's engaged to a man.  We still don't care. 

He's just as nice as her girlfriend was.

I suppose it's only as awful as saying you would prefer it if they didn't.