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Sex Culture
« on: June 24, 2017, 10:43:32 am »
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Itís easy to criticize ****, and itís fun to giggle over the exotic and unfamiliar sex acts the adult industry is all too happy to explore. But positioning the **** industry as an all-powerful force thatís here to wreak havoc on our sex lives is a distraction from the actual problem at hand. If we want an alternative to the vision of sex presented in pornography, we need to start by having open, honest and unashamed talks about sex.

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I'm a prude.  I can barely talk about sex.  I come from an era where such talk is taboo.  Even on a web board with strangers, I can't. 

Is something wrong with me, or is this just natural human shame ?

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #1 on: June 24, 2017, 05:32:04 pm »
I would say that for my generation there's next to no shame in talking about sex.

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #2 on: June 24, 2017, 11:01:26 pm »
That quote is way off.  As a society, I don't think we have issues talking about sex at all.

It's everywhere.  Sometimes I'm surprised how openly G-rated sites get in depth with sexually-related articles.

Not that I mind or I'm complaining, I just think it's silly to say it's a taboo subject.



   

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #3 on: June 24, 2017, 11:18:41 pm »
Sure, it's discussed in media but do we talk to each other ?

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #4 on: June 24, 2017, 11:33:23 pm »
For me it's not a prudishness issue that I don't talk about sex.  First, 98% of the time I'm a mother or in a professional setting so it's inappropriate timing.  And then with friends, I have no inhibitions, but what's there to say when you're in a long-term monogamous relationship and you lost your virginity decades ago.  The novelty has worn off.

I mean my friends and I do discuss it in general terms but to sit there and talk about my husband's performance seems a bit high school, no?


 

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #5 on: June 25, 2017, 12:01:11 pm »
For me talking with men about sex is awkward and talking with women about sex is even more awkward.   I almost never talk about sex in real life, other than with people I'm having sex with.

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #6 on: June 25, 2017, 12:37:31 pm »

I mean my friends and I do discuss it in general terms but to sit there and talk about my husband's performance seems a bit high school, no?


 

Many men suspect that women 'talk' to each other.  It scares us.  This claim makes me feel better.

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #7 on: June 25, 2017, 12:38:20 pm »
    I almost never talk about sex in real life, other than with people I'm having sex with.
 

At least that's something.  Many don't even speak with their partners.

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #8 on: June 25, 2017, 12:58:58 pm »
Many men suspect that women 'talk' to each other.  It scares us.  This claim makes me feel better.

Yeah, don't worry at all.  To give you an example of the most recent sex conversation I had with a friend, it was about whether motherhood changed our libido.  The discussion of details ended in high school. 

And I agree, I wouldn't want my partner talking about our sex life to his friends either.





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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #9 on: June 25, 2017, 01:18:45 pm »
I know my wife does not talk about our sex life with her friends. Or, if she does, not honestly.

Because if she did they would all be sleeping with me!   ;D  <groan>  ::)


But seriously, what is there to talk about other than I did not know I was Japanese?*


* The average Canadian has sex 2-3 times per week, whereas the average Japanese has sex 1-2 times per year. This is upsetting news to me: I didn't know I was Japanese.   
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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #10 on: June 25, 2017, 01:49:43 pm »
Humour.

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #11 on: June 25, 2017, 01:56:52 pm »
the average Japanese has sex 1-2 times per year.

This stat seems a bit incredible so I looked it up.  According to a study by a condom company, it is. 

While they are last, and well below the 2nd most sexless country, they are having sex on average 45 times/year.  So every 8 days or so. 


http://toyokeizai.net/articles/-/56360


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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #12 on: June 25, 2017, 01:59:01 pm »
And humourless...

You're such an accountant BC_C.   ;)
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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #13 on: June 25, 2017, 02:27:31 pm »
I didn't realise you were joking.   Hey, at least I thought the first part about your wife's friends was pretty funny.  That I knew MUST be a joke.   :D

And you're right, there were probably too much GAAP principles of relevance and reliability in that post. 

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Re: Sex Culture
« Reply #14 on: August 15, 2017, 10:42:55 pm »
So, uh...

 ...my boss's wife had this idea that she wants to introduce me to someone.   This isn't a first... lots of people have tried to play matchmaker for me.  What's unique is that this is the first time someone has offered to introduce me to a woman.

I have had a strange tingly feeling for about 4 hours.  Not at the idea of meeting potentially a new partner. This isn't my first rodeo. It's different, hard to put into words. I feel ... accepted?

People I have worked with for a while and feel comfortable with know that I prefer to be with women... my first serious girlfriend even came to a company Christmas party one year. Nobody has said anything negative, at least while I was in earshot. Everybody is polite and tolerant and I even get some good-natured teasing from time to time. So it's not that I have felt negative feelings from my co-workers.  But this was different. This wasn't just tolerance, this was someone reaching out and acknowledging and accepting and supporting me for what I am, and it felt strangely wonderful in a way I had never expected.  A half hour after we had talked, I replayed the conversation in my head, and almost cried from happiness or relief or something. I felt as if some kind of weight had been removed from me. I didn't know I needed this in my life.   

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