Thanks for the responses and cyber hug.
I won't go into detail; "It isn't any of their business" is the most persuasive argument.
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In happier personal stuff, my partner and I rented a small motorhome and took us the the dogs to Salmon Arm to visit kids. We had a really nice visit, the problem granddaughter has left her abusers and seems to be doing much much better. The other two are a typical tween/teen, and the 7-year-old is adorable.
My dog hated the motorhome, but loved living outside. Pretty sure he decided to self-identify as an "wild canine" - despite the leash and food delivery. He'd park himself as far from the humans, or maybe it was the motorhome, as he could, settle down in a shady spot where he could survey the entire expanse of the local environs. He was pretty cute. My partner's dog just took it all in stride; her world revolves around my partner so if he was nearby, she was all good.
This is the first time my partner and I have vacationed together since we got together 11 years ago, and it went pretty well. Both my partner and my dog have quirks which makes social interaction challenging for them, but the motorhome really gave them both more comfort than staying at a hotel or with one of my kids. We hope to make it an annual event, at least, especially since my son has recently acquired a fifth wheel which we can use when we are in Salmon Arm. We'd also like to spend some time in Manning Park, and possibly in other parks in BC, but would want to rent a larger motor home. The one we had worked well enough, but if there'd had been any rain and we'd been stuck inside it for anything other than sleeping, it would have quickly become unbearable.
Anyway, it was definitely an adventure, but overall went well enough that we're going to try it again.