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Offline MH

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« Reply #1080 on: March 21, 2020, 04:27:28 pm »
Wow...  6 days in.

You may want to strongly consider talking to a counselor.

I guess so.  15 years of marriage and 5 years together before that didn't prepare us for the pile-on of stresses we are in now.
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« Reply #1081 on: March 21, 2020, 05:38:08 pm »
We have been given free counselling from work.  It's a phonea session but ok.  Joan is ok with the idea.
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« Reply #1082 on: March 22, 2020, 09:34:30 am »
Feeling low.

Joan took it upon herself to watercolour paint red hearts all over the sidewalk out front.  She's gathered some energy and trying to make things better, which is what love is.  She cleaned up the house and put Easy down for a nap.  She says she will take him out for a long walk today.

Myself, I am still low.  I would prefer to just fix my eyes on the laptop, with the TV news on, gravelled voices giving dour info updates.

I watched some TV shows I had saved.   We have indeed run out of shows, maybe the right one will help us get on the same page.  She said ok to counselling, which I will look up.

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« Reply #1083 on: March 22, 2020, 02:05:01 pm »
Stop continually watching the news, it will just drag you down. Keep it to once or twice a day. Watch something else. Binge watch something on Netflix, listen to music. Get outside, go for a walk. Anything but continually watching the news on the tube or the computer.
"Never trust a man without a single redeeming vice" WSC
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« Reply #1084 on: March 22, 2020, 04:24:45 pm »
I guess so.  15 years of marriage and 5 years together before that didn't prepare us for the pile-on of stresses we are in now.

I wish I had a partner during all this chaos.  If this helps to hear... count your blessings. 

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« Reply #1085 on: March 22, 2020, 04:27:46 pm »
Stop continually watching the news, it will just drag you down. Keep it to once or twice a day. Watch something else. Binge watch something on Netflix, listen to music. Get outside, go for a walk. Anything but continually watching the news on the tube or the computer.

I've started power-washing everything.  I did the deck and backyard furniture and the walls and window.  Now I bought waterproof overalls and I'm gonna do all the paving stones and the driveway.     8)

It keeps my mind busy and I almost forget there is a pandemic and looming Great Depression.  Then I watch the news and cry. 

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« Reply #1086 on: March 22, 2020, 06:46:12 pm »
Into day two of self isolation. It will be an interesting couple of weeks.
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« Reply #1087 on: March 22, 2020, 10:13:26 pm »
I walked a few beaches today.  Found some Texada flower stones...   No idea what I want with these things, but among precious stone and rock collectors, they're a thing!  Not the best examples that I've seen from different websites, but they're not bad.

If you believe the "woo", then these stones combat negativity and cynicism, among other things.  Maybe we all need one in our pockets.... 

https://fieldguidetexada.weebly.com/about-flower-rock.html

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« Reply #1088 on: March 22, 2020, 11:13:43 pm »
Self containment going well.  Meeting a colleague/friend for a game of pickleball later (I hope that doesnít make me sound like Iím 85...).   No contact sport....   Separated by a net, so it should be good!

Pickleball should be halted indefinitely, for the sake of public health.  Not because of the virus, but because of the annoying sound.  Somebody who lives near a pickleball court is going to go on a rampage one of these days.

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« Reply #1089 on: March 22, 2020, 11:37:44 pm »
Since she has no job to go to, Lindsey has been dog-walking and shopping for old-people she knows. She's reading everything she can about this and sending me articles and updates from the government websites and stuff like that.   We spent the whole weekend together... it was very nice. We were driving out to do some hiking today, and she pulled over and started crying. She said "Have you been reading about what's happening in Italy?"  and I nodded. "Things are going to get bad here in the next month. Not Italy bad, but bad. And if things get bad, I think we should get married because I don't ever want to be without you."

I got her calmed down and assured her that she wasn't ever going to be without me, and after a while she was feeling reassured enough to drive us to our destination and we went for a hike.

She laughed it off later-- "I'm so neurotic... 'AHHH!  It's the end of the world! Let's get married!' I hope I didn't freak you out..." but it was kind of sobering.  This was the first time she's ever used the M word in regard to us, and it's something I'd never really thought about. It's obviously something she has thought about. I don't think today counts as a proposal, but it made me realize that she's very invested in this. I have responsibilities to her... I guess I already did, but I didn't realize it to this degree.

She's very precious to me, but I never really considered the idea that I could be this important to her. I never considered that I could be this important to anybody, really. It feels strange.

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« Reply #1090 on: March 22, 2020, 11:40:01 pm »
If you believe the "woo", then these stones combat negativity and cynicism

It's not working.

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« Reply #1091 on: March 23, 2020, 12:39:28 am »
It's not working.

 -k

I don't think it was the rock in my pocket, but it was hard to be negative walking along the beach on such a beautiful day.

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« Reply #1092 on: March 23, 2020, 06:06:37 am »
Wow Kimmy, your post took my breath away.

You should absorb the reality emotionally, IMO.  I know it's scary but Lindsay and life are now waiting on a reaction, if not a response.

If you say 'it's strange' or 'I never thought about this', that's just an intellectual observation.  Don't delay the heart.  Obviously I am hoping for you.

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« Reply #1093 on: March 23, 2020, 07:57:34 am »
Well, I haven't been around for awhile.

Turns out I got mono, as an adult. It sucks. It really sucks. Was sick as hell for about a month and now I'm hunkered down trying to avoid COVID-19 because the last thing I need is to be sick again with my immune system already struggling. Hope everyone is doing well.
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« Reply #1094 on: March 23, 2020, 02:52:18 pm »
Well, I haven't been around for awhile.

Turns out I got mono, as an adult. It sucks. It really sucks. Was sick as hell for about a month and now I'm hunkered down trying to avoid COVID-19 because the last thing I need is to be sick again with my immune system already struggling. Hope everyone is doing well.

That does suck. Keep well.
"Never trust a man without a single redeeming vice" WSC