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« Reply #915 on: October 20, 2019, 02:13:46 pm »
Maybe. Could also be they just like you and actually do think you are really smart.

At a certain point, people tend to get a better understanding of your needs... at least I find.

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« Reply #916 on: October 20, 2019, 02:45:44 pm »
Maybe. Could also be they just like you and actually do think you are really smart.

I hope they really do like me. :)  I'd actually want to hang out with them even if I wasn't involved with their sister.

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« Reply #917 on: October 22, 2019, 02:53:16 pm »
Took a sick day to go to baby gym class.  I never play hooky but I am pretty sick of the mounting mediocrity at work these days...

The city puts on these little gym classes in the community centre.  Well, the 'class' is really just letting the babies crawl around, play and go in the ball pit.  Then we do 10 minutes of singing in a circle.  Easy isn't really into it and just crawls away... :D

It's ok though.  Back home for a long nap after (everybody)

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« Reply #918 on: October 22, 2019, 03:13:25 pm »
Took a sick day to go to baby gym class.  I never play hooky but I am pretty sick of the mounting mediocrity at work these days...

The city puts on these little gym classes in the community centre.  Well, the 'class' is really just letting the babies crawl around, play and go in the ball pit.  Then we do 10 minutes of singing in a circle.  Easy isn't really into it and just crawls away... :D

It's ok though.  Back home for a long nap after (everybody)

Nothing more rejuvenating than a long nap. Duermes bien.

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« Reply #919 on: October 30, 2019, 10:40:57 am »
So my daughter has a new girlfriend, it seems to be going well.  She's a bit older than my daughter, but my girl has always seemed to hang out with people older than herself.

She also just bought a house and moved in Oct. 1. (Well, I bought the house, she's paying me instead of a mortgage.)

The breakup with the old girlfriend was heartbreaking for her.  They were good for each other for a few years when they were both younger, but as they got older my daughter got a great job, wanted to buy a house and settle down, while her girlfriend was still in "party, party, party" mode.

New girlfriend lives in Calgary, so they are coming to our place for xmas  :)
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« Reply #920 on: November 05, 2019, 02:57:58 am »
My special girl is all atwitter with excitement. After long delays, her place reopened today and she's super happy about it.  I met the new owner, and he seems nice. She introduced me to him as her "BFF". Since she's not really out, I understand... and since I'm not really out either, I've done the same to her.

We've had new employees at work.  One is an older guy who still tries to act young and cool.  Despite dying his hair and gelling it up like a teenager, he doesn't look young or cool.  I was in charge of him for a while and I did some of his training. It seemed very clear what he thinks of me and he made no effort to listen to what I said. He's been pawned off on our production manager, and I'm glad. If I had to work with him much longer I'd have probably had to beat the snot out of him.

The other new employee is a young guy straight out of college. He's blond, blue-eyed, 6'2, very buff, and network-TV attractive.  If I was heterosexual I'd be turned into jelly.  He's very nice, polite, respectful, smart, listens to what I tell him. He's such a good kid. 

We had a wonderful time on Halloween.  There's a haunted house here that raises a lot of donations for the food bank. It was delightful.

I got propositioned rather boldly a couple of times recently. I get propositioned from time to time but usually by men, but this time it was by women which is much more exciting for me. The first was an attractive lady at a bar who struck up a conversation and we talked for a while and after a bit she she suggested that we should go to her place. I told her that I wished I'd met her when I was single. And my sweetie arrived about 5 minutes later.

And this Saturday my girl was working and I was at a different bar and these two party girls came in-- big bleach blonde hair, short dresses, fake eyelashes... and it quickly became apparent that they were pretty drunk, and they started making out and putting on quite a show...  and one of them noticed me getting all flustered and started flirting with me, and she came over to me and started giving me hugs and kissing my cheek. Everybody else seemed to find it quite amusing, but it was actually very embarrassing and uncomfortable.

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« Reply #921 on: November 05, 2019, 05:47:06 am »
Your life is very exciting Kimmy.

Easy turned one last week.  We had a baby party for him at the community centre.  It was like a baby Night at the Roxbury with lights and music.  And now I know what baby parties are all about.

Easy is about the cutest baby anyone has ever seen.  He's healthy, 90% in height and weight. 

My crush on my talk Chinese hot smart client lady is starting to subside into a brotherly care feeling, as expected.  That may mean she gets a passing one on me sometime in the next few years due to extended Platonic togetherness but this is no threat of action from me and inappropriate behaviour will not surface in any way.  Also this is a good thing because she pulled a cool move during restructuring and we're doing a kind of Brexit of our team... she's taking us over to a lady VP which will be much better for her career than the boys club VP we're in now.

Smooth sailing into the dark days of winter over here...
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« Reply #922 on: November 05, 2019, 10:24:52 am »
Since she's not really out, I understand... and since I'm not really out either, I've done the same to her.

Interesting, in 2019 there is still a hesitancy to come out. I won't ask your age, but I assume you are no longer in high school with the cliques that would make this difficult anyway.

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« Reply #923 on: November 06, 2019, 12:29:11 am »
I'm sure they do wish us well.  I just can't help feeling that they feel obliged to support us because they don't want to seem intolerant or something like that.  Like, if their sister had started dating some random man, I'm not sure they'd be as enthusiastic.  They might have some reservations and hope that she takes her time and be cautious. Mostly I think her brother and his wife just want her to know that they still love her and that her being in a same-sex relationship hasn't changed anything. Which is wonderful, but I'm not sure they're expressing it in the best way.

I know I'm overthinking this and I should just be grateful that her family aren't a bunch of bigots. They really are super-nice.

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I see your point here and maybe there is a double standard, but maybe it has nothing to do with trying to appear LGBTQ friendly.

Remember many pages ago, when asked, I said that in some ways I'd prefer if my daughters turned out to be gay and you said you've heard that before?

Maybe there's a tendency, right or wrong, in some of us to feel a bit safer when our daughters/sisters give their heart to another woman.



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« Reply #924 on: November 06, 2019, 11:41:23 am »
Interesting, in 2019 there is still a hesitancy to come out. I won't ask your age, but I assume you are no longer in high school with the cliques that would make this difficult anyway.
She lives in Conservative country.
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« Reply #925 on: November 06, 2019, 01:32:48 pm »
She lives in Conservative country.

Not the most progressive place, that's for sure.  Strong influence from Alberta too and it has a biker problem.

There are direct flights from Kelowna to Fort Mac.


The Lib/NDP/Greens did receive 55% of the vote...  a good sign.

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« Reply #926 on: November 08, 2019, 04:06:30 am »
Interesting, in 2019 there is still a hesitancy to come out. I won't ask your age, but I assume you are no longer in high school with the cliques that would make this difficult anyway.

I'm in my mid-30s.  My sweetheart is in her late 20s.  Both of us are "out" to quite a few people, but it's not something we announce to everybody. She has a new boss and new employees, and is sort of still figuring out where she stands with them.  Once she figures out the dynamics of her new relationships, she'll let them learn more about her.  For me building new relationships with co-workers and employers and stuff is complicated enough even without wondering whether they might secretly harbor bigotry toward me.  I'm prefer to not let people in on that stuff until I feel comfortable with them. 

It's kind of funny that staff and regular customers at the bars we like to go to know we're a couple, people who are either casual acquaintances or complete strangers. But many of the people I work with every day don't know about that part of my life. 

She lives in Conservative country.
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Not the most progressive place, that's for sure.  Strong influence from Alberta too and it has a biker problem.

It's not a monolith.  It's the urban hub of a large rural area. We have a lot of old-people and rednecks, but it's also a college town and a lot of young people have come here to work. The electoral map might say this is conservative country, but the area where I live has a very progressive vibe to it.  There are more micro-brew loving hipsters than Bud-drinking rednecks in this part of town.

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« Reply #927 on: November 08, 2019, 04:11:26 am »
I see your point here and maybe there is a double standard, but maybe it has nothing to do with trying to appear LGBTQ friendly.

Remember many pages ago, when asked, I said that in some ways I'd prefer if my daughters turned out to be gay and you said you've heard that before?

Maybe there's a tendency, right or wrong, in some of us to feel a bit safer when our daughters/sisters give their heart to another woman.

That's true.  Kind of like how people thought the drunk young woman from the other night mashing on me was amusing and harmless, while if a man had acted that way somebody would have called the police. There's a double standard, and perhaps there should be.

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« Reply #928 on: November 08, 2019, 05:55:48 am »
I think there should be double standards... as in not telling lesbians they're closed-minded for not dating trans women, affirmative action etc.

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I thought kimmy's age and that of her mate were switched...  but ok...

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It's all done, the Game of Thrones chapter at work is done.  Big restructuring went down last two weeks.  My shitty boss's boss is out on the street.
 My shitty boss was my only boss for 10 weeks and we met about 3 times in that period... and he's now effectively demoted, in as much as he saw his previous role as grand-boss's yes man as vitally important.

And my team will be cut loose from this organization and migrated to a new one.  Mama san is my actual boss now which means any flirting from her would:

1) include a hot power dynamic
2) be sexual harassment IN MY FAVOUR  :D

In all seriousness, the moves she pulled off to do this and save the team from shittyness, and the trust she put in me to take care of things while she was busy with that has solidified our relationship.  Even though she looks better than ever, something about this maternal protection thing is killing the attraction for me.  I do love her, but profesionally. 

Side note- on my way out of this organization I was assigned a temporary boss for 1 week.   This is a tiny, short-haired/bushy-haired FOR SURE lesbian with a thick Brazillian accent.  And from ONE 1/2 hour meeting, she is f*cking brilliant.  I broke it to her that I'm leaving to work for mamasan but I want to come back in a year or so after we launch our product.


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« Reply #929 on: November 11, 2019, 03:25:03 am »
I thought kimmy's age and that of her mate were switched...  but ok...

I briefly dated the much older woman, the realtor... is that the one you were thinking of?  That didn't last long.   

I actually thought my sweetheart was closer to my own age when I met her.  Not that she looks it, but she has a self assurance and confidence that made me think she was older than she is.  Although she has not felt confident the past week.  With the big reopening underway, the new owners have been there constantly making sure everything is going smoothly. She feels like she's being observed.  Also she feels quite undermined, as the owners are the ones giving all the direction to the staff. When they want to know what to do they walk right past her and talk to the owners.  She isn't "managing" anything, and she feels useless. Hopefully it sorts itself out soon.

It's all done, the Game of Thrones chapter at work is done.  Big restructuring went down last two weeks.  My shitty boss's boss is out on the street.
 My shitty boss was my only boss for 10 weeks and we met about 3 times in that period... and he's now effectively demoted, in as much as he saw his previous role as grand-boss's yes man as vitally important.

And my team will be cut loose from this organization and migrated to a new one.  Mama san is my actual boss now which means any flirting from her would:

1) include a hot power dynamic
2) be sexual harassment IN MY FAVOUR  :D

In all seriousness, the moves she pulled off to do this and save the team from shittyness, and the trust she put in me to take care of things while she was busy with that has solidified our relationship.  Even though she looks better than ever, something about this maternal protection thing is killing the attraction for me.  I do love her, but profesionally. 

Will you be required to "Give Lunch!" more frequently now?

Side note- on my way out of this organization I was assigned a temporary boss for 1 week.   This is a tiny, short-haired/bushy-haired FOR SURE lesbian with a thick Brazillian accent.  And from ONE 1/2 hour meeting, she is f*cking brilliant.  I broke it to her that I'm leaving to work for mamasan but I want to come back in a year or so after we launch our product.

What makes you so sure she's a lesbian?  Does she drive a Subaru or eat generic wheat squares for breakfast?

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