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« Reply #840 on: August 06, 2019, 11:32:39 am »
This is something that I try to get across to students constantly. When you're looking at a spreadsheet of data, it's easy to lose sight of the fact that what you're looking at are real people with real lives and all of the complexity that comes along with that. I really try to get across that it's important not to dehumanize people through data.

Yep.  The flip side, though, is that people can focus too much on the social and humanized aspect of any endeavour and it's actually easy for it to lose sight of what its supposed to be achieving.
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« Reply #841 on: August 06, 2019, 05:41:02 pm »
Took Easy to his first burningman event.  Our camp had 3 babies, and Easy was the youngest... also a bunch of elementary school kids.

3 nights camping... overall it was blissful but also the usual parenting stuff... screaming at 4 am in the tent, poo explosions at random times....

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As much as I love this it does exhaust me.  And I don't think it would be a good idea to have a 2nd kid, realistically.  :(
Let me just put in one word here for siblings: Ok, maybe a few words.
Siblings squabble, and you have to deal with that, but they squabble with each other. Lone children squabble with their parents.
Sibling play together. You don't always have to be looking for playmates, playgroups, activities as you do for a lone child, always running here and there.
And obviously, a sibling is a loved one lifelong.
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« Reply #842 on: August 07, 2019, 09:40:14 am »
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This is something that I try to get across to students constantly. When you're looking at a spreadsheet of data, it's easy to lose sight of the fact that what you're looking at are real people with real lives and all of the complexity that comes along with that. I really try to get across that it's important not to dehumanize people through data.

Yep.  The flip side, though, is that people can focus too much on the social and humanized aspect of any endeavour and it's actually easy for it to lose sight of what its supposed to be achieving.

You guys are playing my song! Lol

We made graphs of distributions of data about children by stacking little 'child icons', reminding us/our audiences that the data represented real children.
And while percentages are useful for comparisons, we also translated them back into actual numbers of children represented. 1% might sound like a minuscule number, easy to dismiss/ignore/not address at all.
But it can still be a lot of kids/people and the raw numbers can really make that hit home.

I don't think you can have too much "social and humanized" focus, but I do think that those untrained and inexperienced in addressing those human issues can become overwhelmed by them. But I'm not sure what kind of "numbers" we're each talking about.
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« Reply #843 on: August 07, 2019, 10:22:54 am »
And I don't think it would be a good idea to have a 2nd kid, realistically.  :(

Due to circumstances, my kids are 7 years apart.  I wish they could have been closer together.  It made it so they were not as close as siblings should be.  When my son was 16 and driving and going out with friends, his sister was 9 and couldn't understand why she couldn't tag along with him all the time.  Even as adults, they're not particularly close.  He's married, kids, house, etc, while she is still just getting her life together.

I think 2-3 years between kids is perfect.
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« Reply #844 on: August 07, 2019, 10:37:25 am »
Did a show last night and had some particularly great show-stealing moments... and afterwards... a sort of 'groupie' seemed to be on to me.  She was totally my type, Reubenesque but also too young, maybe mid 20s... but it doesn't matter...

The great thing was that a cast member happened to be there and asked me something and I had occasion to show them a video of Easy at the event.  That had the desired effect, and groupie went on to #2. 

I really understand why/how middled-aged people have affairs.  I seem to have so many opportunities these days... it's pretty counter-intuitive.  To make even a semi-serious flirt would short-circuit my life, though, let's be clear. 

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« Reply #845 on: August 07, 2019, 07:59:38 pm »
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As much as I love this it does exhaust me. 

I didn’t think you were part of the “me” generation...  but it certainly sounds like it.  Parenting has only been done about 9 billion times over this century alone....   gimme a break. ::)

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« Reply #846 on: August 07, 2019, 08:21:12 pm »
Uh huh.  You're the sympathetic type I see.

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« Reply #847 on: August 07, 2019, 09:51:08 pm »
Babies are particularly exhausting. Two-year-olds are **** psychopaths though.

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« Reply #848 on: August 07, 2019, 10:02:49 pm »
Babies are particularly exhausting. Two-year-olds are **** psychopaths though.

Thanks for the acknowledgement.  It's good to know that I can admit I am tired and some people won't call me 'selfish'.

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« Reply #849 on: August 07, 2019, 10:21:58 pm »
Has squid bred?
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« Reply #850 on: August 08, 2019, 12:32:41 am »
I feel quite bad about this, because I know that at least some of my antipathy toward this person is based on prejudice. Her style of dress and the way she acts all just scream "trashy" to me, and bring out all sorts of negative feelings associated with that stereotype.

That said, she REALLY IS dumb. Yesterday lost of people took the day off and I ended up having to provide Brenda with all kinds of help, and most of it was help with stuff that anybody with an ounce of brains should have been able to figure out on their own.

"These aren't shipping documents. Fed Ex doesn't need these."
"Well they came out of the printer along with the other Fed Ex documents."
"These are Ed's test reports. They don't have anything to do with shipping."
"So Fed Ex doesn't need those?"
"No. Just the packing list and the pages that say Fed Ex on them."
"Ohhhhh.... those are for Ed?"
"Yes, those are for Ed. These are for the shipment."
"ohhhhh."
"..."
".... Should I give these to Ed?"
"Sure, why don't you go ahead and do that."
"Alright, I'll go do that..."
"..."
"HEY ED HERE ARE YOUR PRINT-OUTS HAHA I ALMOST SHIPPED THEM TO AUSTRALIA BY MISTAKE HAHA THAT WOULD HAVE BEEN PRETTY FUNNY HAHA"

She's just soooooo   ...   


....soooooo gone.  Brenda has been "yeet"-ed from the company.  I am not surprised it happened, I am only surprised it took this long.

Her answer to everything was either "ohhhh, I don't know how to do that," or "ohhhh, can you do that for me?"   Aside from burnt homemade cookies, she had little to contribute.  Her only noteworthy skills seemed to be avoiding work, getting other people to do her work, whining about how hard her job was, and clock-watching.  It was just about the 3 month anniversary of her arrival, and I guess 3 months of seeing her in action was enough.   While I take no pleasure in Brenda's misfortune, I'm somewhat relieved that sanity has prevailed.  She was bad for the company. She would have been bad for the company even if she was working for free.



My special girl has been super-affectionate lately. Lots of texts at random times, asking me to spend a day with her, inviting me to come meet whichever of her relatives are in town from Calgary, this sort of thing. It feels like she has become very invested in this, which is surprising for me because I had always assumed she'd dump me when she met her next boyfriend.  I entered this with the idea that I was disposable to her, and prevented myself from thinking this was more than temporary.  Now it feels like the opposite. Lately I have been thinking things over and wondering if this is really what I want or if I am just settling for something that was available when I needed it, and worrying that if this doesn't work out she might be really really hurt.


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« Reply #851 on: August 08, 2019, 05:21:46 am »
Wow.  Brenda -> GONE !  What's yeeted ?

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« Reply #852 on: August 08, 2019, 06:10:31 am »
"Yeet" is something going around the internet. I gather it means flung forcefully or discarded with great vigor.  I'm not sure exactly where it came from or why, but I wanted to use it so that I can be one of the cool kids.

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« Reply #853 on: August 08, 2019, 10:34:11 am »
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poo explosions at random times....

Great...   more burning man poop in the desert....   just what the coyotes and scorpions need.


 I entered this with the idea that I was disposable to her, and prevented myself from thinking this was more than temporary.  Now it feels like the opposite. Lately I have been thinking things over and wondering if this is really what I want or if I am just settling for something that was available when I needed it, and worrying that if this doesn't work out she might be really really hurt.

I’m no couples counsellor, but have you thought of using discussion as a means to figure where this is going with this person who has you meeting her relatives like “you’re the one”?  I hear it has been used to great effect in other people’s relationships.... 

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« Reply #854 on: August 08, 2019, 12:13:58 pm »
1) Great...   more burning man poop in the desert....   just what the coyotes and scorpions need.

2) I’m no couples counsellor, but have you thought of using discussion as a means to figure where this is going with this person who has you meeting her relatives like “you’re the one”?  I hear it has been used to great effect in other people’s relationships....

1) Ha... no.  3X wrong: no random disposal of poop, no desert, and there are no coyotes or scorpions in the black rock desert.  No bugs either.  They die.

2) Oh goody... let's get you to boss around lesbians now !!!  :D