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Offline Omni

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« Reply #675 on: March 04, 2019, 02:08:58 pm »
Hey if you're thinking about heading south to Mexico for a winter escape, you won't have to take the chance of taking your pot with you, you can get it legally there now. I bet they have good product too.

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« Reply #676 on: March 08, 2019, 07:57:34 am »

Ok, so the job turned bad.  My boss got me a new opportunity which is exciting and a chance to get off my dud of a project.  My (internal) client had blocked my transfer off the project last November, pulling out the stops.  I knew that there was a lot of politics happening a few levels up and I was another pawn in that battle so I let it go.  Those fights have settled down and my boss said there would be no impediments to moving me off.  But she, my internal client, did it again.

So I'm stuck in a glorified assistant position now, where I'm supposed to be doing basic Agile management to learn it from the ground up.  Instead, I'm just reminding people to update documents etc.  This was all supposed to end February 1.

So I am stuck.  And I can't leave.  I looked up what to do when you're stuck in a job on Google and a bunch of articles that said make the best of it.  I feel like I can't be fake, though, which means my unhappiness will be visible to everyone.  As such, I think I have to explain my feelings about this to my client and move on.

It will be hard to not passive-aggressively scuttle the project.

Thoughts or advices ?  Please be aware that I am unlikely to have NOT thought of anything you suggested.
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« Reply #677 on: March 09, 2019, 12:21:45 pm »
Sounds frustrating. Can't offer any advice though.
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« Reply #678 on: March 09, 2019, 12:31:07 pm »
More grandpa bragging. Youngest grand daughter's BC white team won U16 girls at the Vancouver Sevens yesterday. Took a knock on the head and is under concussion protocol now. Feels fine though. Oldest grand daughter's U18 team came second in their division, the Fraser Valley girls losing in the final to the Rugby Canada U18 development team which they narrowly beat in the pool play. She is playing at BC place at noon for UBC in an exhibition game at the big tournament but I can't get the live stream on CBC because we are in the US right now and it isn't on satellite. I'm pissed.
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« Reply #679 on: March 09, 2019, 01:28:15 pm »
Ok, so the job turned bad.  My boss got me a new opportunity which is exciting and a chance to get off my dud of a project.  My (internal) client had blocked my transfer off the project last November, pulling out the stops.  I knew that there was a lot of politics happening a few levels up and I was another pawn in that battle so I let it go.  Those fights have settled down and my boss said there would be no impediments to moving me off.  But she, my internal client, did it again.

Has she given an explanation for why she blocked your transfer?  Seems weird that someone else in the organization has the power to stop your transfer if the boss has approved it.

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« Reply #680 on: March 09, 2019, 01:39:40 pm »
As such, I think I have to explain my feelings about this to my client and move on.

It will be hard to not passive-aggressively scuttle the project.

Thoughts or advices ?  Please be aware that I am unlikely to have NOT thought of anything you suggested.

are you confident in your skills/resume and does the Toronto (area) have real PM jobs wanting? If not, can you afford/stand to be out of work for a while? Ever tried stepping outside your own consult to work for an actual IT consulting firm... even if you warm the bench for a while/occasionally?

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« Reply #681 on: March 10, 2019, 10:05:24 am »
Has she given an explanation for why she blocked your transfer?  Seems weird that someone else in the organization has the power to stop your transfer if the boss has approved it.

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She's my internal client.  I didn't get a reason from her yet but I know it will be because I'm critical to the success of the project I am leaving or somesuch. 

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« Reply #682 on: March 10, 2019, 10:07:14 am »
are you confident in your skills/resume and does the Toronto (area) have real PM jobs wanting? If not, can you afford/stand to be out of work for a while? Ever tried stepping outside your own consult to work for an actual IT consulting firm... even if you warm the bench for a while/occasionally?

I can't be out of work for awhile.  I was self-employed before this and am more naturally suited to that work and the higher pay levels and tax advantages.  But I am the sole breadwinner right now and a recession may be in the winds too.

I feel like I have to bite the bullet and smile through this bullshit.  I hate the idea of faking it but I don't want to leave.  I feel pretty powerless.

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« Reply #683 on: March 11, 2019, 08:25:46 pm »
Got an offer accepted.  Inspector said it's got problems so we're back at square one.  Baby is teething. 

I keep wondering that if I did this in my twenties, would I have been different ?

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« Reply #684 on: March 11, 2019, 08:33:49 pm »
What sort of problems?
Every house has problems. Or it will soon.

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« Reply #685 on: March 11, 2019, 09:27:46 pm »
Foundation work needed.  Cost unknown.

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« Reply #686 on: March 11, 2019, 10:06:22 pm »
Foundation work needed.  Cost unknown.
Doesn't sound good.
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« Reply #687 on: March 12, 2019, 06:12:24 am »
Doesn't sound good.

So we lowered our offer by $50K - as the repairs are ballparked at 1/2 that.  That would also provide us with a much-needed rainy day fund.

No response yet.

And - when it rains it pours - the lady who blocked me from leaving met with me yesterday and seems to think I didn't want to go.  I guess she forgot me fighting like hell to get away from her last fall.  She's delusional.  She pulled out all the stops and said my leaving would delay her project by six weeks - a lie.  She seems to think that she saved "us" by doing all of this and was strategizing how we together could prevent this from happening again.

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« Reply #688 on: March 12, 2019, 07:28:58 am »
What indicated it needed foundation work? Cracks upstairs above doorways from shifting, water seepage evidence, vertical cracks in the basement wall or horizontal cracks?

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« Reply #689 on: March 12, 2019, 08:56:07 am »
Driveway sloping towards house.  Cracks