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« Reply #495 on: December 05, 2018, 12:10:42 pm »
It's a pretty toxic workplace.  But it's a job right now so I try to stay positive.

I hope you can leave sooner rather than later.    I stayed in a toxic position too long, and when I finally left, I noticed so many things I had been missing before even though I encountered them almost daily - the wonderful smell of fresh air, the beauty of flowers and trees, how adorable my dogs are, how nice (most) people are.  I now make less money, and that's a stress, but the improvement in my quality of my life is priceless.

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« Reply #496 on: December 05, 2018, 12:11:51 pm »
Those are amazing.  I have a bluff in front of my house that I keep dreaming of digging out and making a wine cellar like those caves!  But the tens or hundreds of thousands of dollars it would cost to drill into rock has left me with just fantasies...



Well now if I end up being buried, that looks like the kind of grave I want. I've always had this fear in the back of my mind of coming back to life 6 feet under somewhere. But there if that happened, I could have quite a little celebration of life party while I was figuring out how to dig myself out.
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« Reply #497 on: December 05, 2018, 02:20:22 pm »
I hope you can leave sooner rather than later.    I stayed in a toxic position too long, and when I finally left, I noticed so many things I had been missing before even though I encountered them almost daily - the wonderful smell of fresh air, the beauty of flowers and trees, how adorable my dogs are, how nice (most) people are.  I now make less money, and that's a stress, but the improvement in my quality of my life is priceless.

** sigh **

This morning I listened to said toxic person rant and storm around the office for about 2 hours about a client who inadvertently was not set up in our email system.  Usually the process we use works well, but in this case, the client tried to circumvent the process and one person was missed.  It's really not a huge deal.

After listening to her storm and rage for 2 hours and try to pin the blame on everyone else, she finally came to my office to continue the rant, so I took the paper and said, "Look, it takes about 2 minutes to set them up.  Let's just get them set up instead of playing the Blame Game like we usually do."  Our poor secretary/receptionist had about had it with  her by that time.

To which she stomped back to her office and slammed the door.

Ahhhhhh......hopefully peace & quiet for the rest of the day.  I get tired of the drama and just refuse to play most of the time.

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« Reply #498 on: December 05, 2018, 04:51:13 pm »
I ... I think I'm conventionally good looking, though not "network TV attractive".  I think it's mostly that this whole thing was hatched around the idea of girl-on-girl frolicking, and extending it beyond the original context is taking a while.  That's actually how all of this has worked for me. Sex first, friendship later. My earlier attempts at heterosexual relationship were somewhat the opposite. The friendship came first and easily, the sex .. uh, well, in hindsight that part of it makes more sense now.

Well, I think the sex-first approach is typical of many relationships. It happened with me, although I was deeply intrigued by my gal from the outset and hoping it would turn out... pretty much as it has :D

So... what next with this one ?  Do you get along at least in terms of hanging out and getting to know each other ?

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I know, right? I feel genuinely disappointed that somebody in the office has such a lame sense of humor. Maybe one of our suppliers sent it or maybe it was a Christmas gift that somebody got and brought to work because they didn't want it in their home.

I don't know who actually brought the calendar. Old Economy Steve would have been the obvious candidate, but we had the calendar before he started with us. I can't figure out whose sense of humor is so banal they would like this.   The technical people have highly quirky senses of humor, which rules out Good Boss Greg, Engineer Ed, Tech Sales Tom, and Ted Technician. It doesn't seem like something Boring Stories Bob would bring either.  So that leaves either Production Chief Pete or one of the minions.

I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I just really want to **** up this calendar.

You can't.  They'll know you hate them.  Somebody told me once they worked with someone for years in a big company.  That person got a transfer and then took it upon themselves to tell everyone what they really thought of them,and it wasn't good.  Then, in an independent and random quirk of God, the transfer was revoked.

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Yay! Now that you've got the parenting thing on lockdown, you're discovering that you can still have a life!

I will be so delighted if young EZ's first words are "wubbah chicken?"

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That's also genius.   We should coordinate something like that at my place.  Sometimes Engineer Ed will break up these things by making some comment that completely distracts Bob and puts him on a whole different rail. "Holy ****, Bob, what happened to your shoes? It looks like a wolverine attacked you." Then Bob will start telling Ed about how shitty the shoes are and he's never buying that brand again and so on and Ed says "uh huh" and leaves and Bob goes back to his cubicle and starts working again.


Do it.  I was giving serious advice and it helped us greatly.  Just don't be too obvious.

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« Reply #499 on: December 05, 2018, 05:12:52 pm »
That person got a transfer and then took it upon themselves to tell everyone what they really thought of them,and it wasn't good.  Then, in an independent and random quirk of God, the transfer was revoked.

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« Reply #500 on: December 06, 2018, 03:17:08 am »
Well, I think the sex-first approach is typical of many relationships. It happened with me, although I was deeply intrigued by my gal from the outset and hoping it would turn out... pretty much as it has :D

 ;D

So... what next with this one ?  Do you get along at least in terms of hanging out and getting to know each other ?

I think we're pretty compatible.  I'm more reserved than she is... she's sometimes pretty boisterous and flamboyant, but she doesn't seem to mind that I'm quieter.   The snuggling is pretty great. She's very cuddlesome.

You can't.  They'll know you hate them.  Somebody told me once they worked with someone for years in a big company.  That person got a transfer and then took it upon themselves to tell everyone what they really thought of them,and it wasn't good.  Then, in an independent and random quirk of God, the transfer was revoked.

In my heart, I know you're right and it kills me inside that I can't **** up that shitty calendar. 

The transfer person sounds like a gigantic jackass. That sounds like the kind of karma that usually only gets served on TV sit-coms.

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2. What ? 

If EZ sees a lot of your theatre show I can only assume he's going to become a big fan of "wubba chicken"!
 


Do it.  I was giving serious advice and it helped us greatly.  Just don't be too obvious.

As Boring Stories Bob and his victims, including myself, all work within a few feet of each other, we don't phone each other very much.  Perhaps breaking these up with polite in-person interruptions is something we can work on.

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« Reply #501 on: December 06, 2018, 03:27:49 am »
You guys are sounding super judgemental about your coworkers....   maybe they’re not the issue....?   Just sayin’...

The truth is that I am very lucky to work with the people I work with, and I know it.  Reading about Goddess's ranting diva co-worker puts it in perspective. I don't have anybody like that in my office and I've very grateful. 

It's fun to complain about Old Economy Steve and Boring Stories Bob and the incredibly shitty Murphy's Law wall calendar, but I look forward to going to work each morning. The work itself can sometimes be stressful, but the stress comes from having too much to do, not from my co-workers. In the past I have had co-workers who caused me anxiety in one way or another.  My current place has nothing like that.  They're all pleasant and accept me as I am. It's a happy environment full of humor and people who want to succeed as a group.

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« Reply #502 on: December 06, 2018, 06:14:38 am »

If EZ sees a lot of your theatre show I can only assume he's going to become a big fan of "wubba chicken"!

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As Boring Stories Bob and his victims, including myself, all work within a few feet of each other, we don't phone each other very much.  Perhaps breaking these up with polite in-person interruptions is something we can work on.
 

Ah.  Well, where there's a 'will' there's a way.  Maybe you need to put a stick in the whirling spokes of your office culture by suggesting something else... maybe creating a seed of something else to talk about, or another perspective, you can get people to focus on this old school bullshit humour less or at least make it clear that there are other things people are interested in.

I needed a way for a very diverse team to come together every two weeks, so I came up with a group lunch, bring-your-own, where we would watch YouTube videos on the big screen in the conference room.  It's actually turned pretty fascinating... from Indian commercials to Russian traffic cameras... to one guy's CN tower walk video... 

The point being that everybody participates and we decide collectively what to watch.  Culture needs to be nurtured, see...

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« Reply #504 on: December 07, 2018, 08:50:02 am »
WOO HOO.  Work from home today and Monday.   Hello forum !   :D
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« Reply #505 on: December 08, 2018, 01:19:07 pm »
OMG, Old Economy Steve might be a Trumptard!

Boring Stories Bob was laughing his ass off yesterday about these news stories about undocumented illegals working at Trump resorts.  Steve gets all huffy. "You know, it really annoys me that all this stuff is being thrown at Trump. He didn't hire those people personally. It's not like he's the one who reviewed their paperwork. This stuff is just being dredged up by people who just want to tear him down!"

Ok, so while Steve might actually have a point, I was surprised that he was so annoyed about "people who just want to tear him down".

I have a relative who's a Trumptard, but I never see him. This is my chance to observe a real Trumptard in his natural habitat, to try to understand his motivations and learn its behaviors. This is very exciting! A real learning opportunity!

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« Reply #506 on: December 08, 2018, 01:30:50 pm »
Careful. They tend to get their back up when you mention the irrationality of their arguments or their gobsmacking hypocrisy.

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« Reply #507 on: December 08, 2018, 09:22:08 pm »
Careful. They tend to get their back up when you mention the irrationality of their arguments or their gobsmacking hypocrisy.

Interesting observation. I will watch for this as I observe the subject in its natural environment.

"...normally placid and lethargic, the Trumptard may become belligerent or aggressive if its world view is challenged."

Maybe I could get NFB funding to do a documentary. I'm picturing something like those Hinterland Who's Who clips.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LwWHk8azaAc

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« Reply #508 on: December 15, 2018, 09:16:21 am »
Soo.... today we're going to try to go where they are people, with baby in the stroller.

Today we become one of those.

Yes.  Angst.  I expect I will perceive spiky objects everywhere.
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« Reply #509 on: December 15, 2018, 12:30:09 pm »
Good luck!  I am sure your little traveler will have a safe and merry time!

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