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« Reply #60 on: May 12, 2018, 07:13:42 am »
Ah ok.  It's a biggish city then...

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« Reply #61 on: May 12, 2018, 10:34:58 am »
Well, big enough that the dating pool is a pool and not just a fishbowl.  And with the amount of people arriving and leaving, there's always new people to meet.  Unfortunately most of the new people coming and going are young people, often arriving for college or to start their careers. Now that I'm no longer exactly young  I am not sure about dating people in their early 20s. 

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« Reply #62 on: May 12, 2018, 10:35:36 am »
I am not sure about dating people in their early 20s. 
 

Yeah, but I'll bet they are...

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« Reply #63 on: May 12, 2018, 06:56:25 pm »
I may on occasion exaggerate how small Kim City really is.  There are over 125,000 people in Kim City itself, plus roughly 30,000 more in nearby municipalities and unincorporated areas, and it's also the regional hub of a pretty large area.  It's also one of the fastest growing communities in Canada, behind just a handful of cities in Alberta and Saskatchewan.

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« Reply #64 on: May 13, 2018, 10:50:26 pm »
Yeah, but I'll bet they are...

Sure about what?


Based on my own adventures and misadventures at that age, I suspect that many of them aren't actually sure of anything.     You're young and attractive and the world is full of possibilities and there are many things you're interested in or curious about, and you're excited to experience as much of it as you can.  And some of the things that seemed interesting when you were reading about them or saw them in a movie turn out to be not quite what you were expecting. 

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« Reply #65 on: May 14, 2018, 05:10:55 am »
Sure about what?

What they want to do in the moment.

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Based on my own adventures and misadventures at that age, I suspect that many of them aren't actually sure of anything.     You're young and attractive and the world is full of possibilities and there are many things you're interested in or curious about, and you're excited to experience as much of it as you can.  And some of the things that seemed interesting when you were reading about them or saw them in a movie turn out to be not quite what you were expecting. 
 

I think I wrote about dating a much older women when I was younger.  I knew I wanted to try it, and she was wise enough to know what I was up to when she bought in.  It was quite a romance, although short.

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« Reply #66 on: May 16, 2018, 09:42:10 am »
I'm going to Slayer on Sunday.   ;D
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« Reply #67 on: May 16, 2018, 11:33:07 pm »
Won a new position at work, it's a challenging job but I'm loving it.  Also a promotion in that it's 5 levels above my previous position and that does translate into a bit more money.  Yay me!  I'd buy you all lunch, but it would probably just end up in a huge food fight.    ;D   ;D  ;D
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« Reply #68 on: May 23, 2018, 03:20:02 am »
What they want to do in the moment.

I feel like "in the moment" is an important disclaimer when you're talking about people in their early 20s. It certainly was for me, at least. I never did anything I didn't want to do, but I did lots of things that made me think, later, "what the heck was I thinking..."  Life was like Disneyland, and I wanted to go on all the rides. Some of them were great, some were fun, some were scary, some made me barf...

I had mentioned the bartender, who is a quite a bit younger than me.  And there's a waitress at a place I often go... we've never talked, but the eye contact and smiles and amount of mutual checking out... it makes my heart beat quicker. She's probably about 20, which makes me feel dirty and old.

But instead...

I think I wrote about dating a much older women when I was younger.  I knew I wanted to try it, and she was wise enough to know what I was up to when she bought in.  It was quite a romance, although short.

 ...I went to an open house this weekend and ended up giving the realtor my number.  Considerably older than me, divorced, has adult children out in the world. MILF, cougar type. She texted me today, and I've been on pins and needles ever since.

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« Reply #69 on: May 23, 2018, 03:55:53 am »
Having trouble sleeping.  Lots of shouting going on somewhere close by.  Followed by 15 minutes of quiet.  Followed by the RCMP arriving with sirens blaring.  Followed by more shouting. It's a vicious cycle.  Lots of partying going on tonight for some reason.  Drunk mooks and woo-hoo girls.  Mook season runs basically from May long weekend to Labor Day and really picks up in July and August, so things are just going to get louder.   


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« Reply #70 on: May 23, 2018, 06:17:37 am »

I had mentioned the bartender, who is a quite a bit younger than me.  And there's a waitress at a place I often go... we've never talked, but the eye contact and smiles and amount of mutual checking out... it makes my heart beat quicker. She's probably about 20, which makes me feel dirty and old.

Well, sure ... but curiosity didn't kill the cat, at least not right away...

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...I went to an open house this weekend and ended up giving the realtor my number.  Considerably older than me, divorced, has adult children out in the world. MILF, cougar type. She texted me today, and I've been on pins and needles ever since.
 

You seem to be at that age where you can trade up to older, or down to younger... or something.  When I was 32 I took a break from my 24-year old girlfriend to date a 50-year old.  The 24-year old was quite jealous and they almost met up at a play I was in.... hoo-boy. 

I just met up with a girl pal (never dated) from university last night.  Don't know how she does it - she is in her 50s and chubby and never goes without a guy for long.  She is on a break with her boyfriend, and right away met a younger dude who is pleasuring her while the boyfriend (none the wiser) figures out if he wants to commit to a relationship.  To those of you singles who meet people at the rate of one a year or more, congratulations.  I know many who go years without a date.  Maybe they don't try.

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« Reply #71 on: May 23, 2018, 06:22:08 am »
When we last tuned in on my career, usurption was in the air... and... it HAPPENED.

Not sure why, but the new guy has effectively shut me out of communication and decision making.  I attend conference calls, but I am a ghost... I say 'hello' at the start then sit there for an hour.

Between meetings I have one task: forward emails that come to me automatically from a ticket system.  I forward them to the new guy to do the work.  Other than that, I surf.

Yes, it is bugging me.  They are paying me many thousands every week to do nothing.  And it kills me because I like the company, and they really need me to organize their projects.  But they don't know what they don't know... so they give me nothing to do.

I told my grand-boss that they should make me a project organizer guy... and he said he'd let me know next week.  If the answer is 'no' then I'm going to find something else.  I have an interview with a bank on Friday and then a phone interview for a fancy job on June 1st.  The bank seems the most likely choice right now.

I don't like feeling useless.  It is actually depressing.  My old boss and underling were fired, and the new guy is socializing and making friends while simultaneously shutting me out and being cold to me.  Surprising how much stuff like that can affect you, even in middle age.

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« Reply #72 on: May 23, 2018, 06:24:18 am »
Separate discussion with my gal pal from last night:

She said she would end a marriage over lack of sex, no question.  Would you ?  I would not.  I would end it through cruelty, or desperate circumstances but not that.  If love is there then I am showing up.

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« Reply #73 on: May 23, 2018, 08:19:34 am »
Separate discussion with my gal pal from last night:

She said she would end a marriage over lack of sex, no question.  Would you ?  I would not.  I would end it through cruelty, or desperate circumstances but not that.  If love is there then I am showing up.

When I was younger, I might have since I conflated love and sex to some extent.   Not so much any more, so depending on the reason for "no sex", it wouldn't be a deal breaker.

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« Reply #74 on: May 24, 2018, 12:26:19 am »
When we last tuned in on my career, usurption was in the air... and... it HAPPENED.

Not sure why, but the new guy has effectively shut me out of communication and decision making.  I attend conference calls, but I am a ghost... I say 'hello' at the start then sit there for an hour.

I'll have to work this into an upcoming episode.   I'm suspicious of this new guy. Maybe he works for Ooblik? 

Sorry to hear you're on unsteady ground. :(

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