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Offline eyeball

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Re: Personal Stuff
« Reply #1320 on: November 09, 2020, 05:38:37 pm »
1.  I don't get the interest in sex with different people; maybe because BTDT.
Wishful frustrated thinking on my part maybe.

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2.  I'm an introvert, too, so again why the idea of a closed, live-in situation was my personal ideal.  I really liked having that 'other woman' in our life, it was often really fun.  And there were times when I really appreciated her availability for things I either wanted to do and he didn't, or didn't want to do and he did - she could do it, and I could enjoy alone time.
I can grok that, we live on the same property under different roofs (I'm out in the back 40 too). I'm pretty sure another woman or even a man in our life would be a non-starter.

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Plus, my libido was lower than his so he could get all the sex he wanted, and I could sleep alone - something else I really like to do from time to time.   It may be that because we never did get to the level of living together with another woman, I had a rather romantic view of how it could all unfold, but at the time it seemed doable and a very inviting goal.  And in my experience, most poly people are more of the multiple-partners each, so finding that perfect fit might have been extremely difficult.  My partner today does not have any interest in any kind of poly, although I did try to persuade him it might be fun when we first got together. 
This libido thing seems to be pretty common.  I often feel like I'm in an old Neil Young song..."someone to cook the dinner, do the dishes and go away..."   

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And as I get older, the effort involved in developing another relationship seems too daunting, anyway, so we're all good here.  :)
I have a friend my age who is struggling with teenage kids that my kids babysat. I feel for MH.

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3.  Yes, your grandkids are lucky to have such a great grandpa.  :)
I'm the luckier one.