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Offline Dia

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Re: Personal Stuff
« Reply #1320 on: November 09, 2020, 11:22:12 am »
1. Why would he do that if your relationship was open though ?
2. Sorry  :(
3. Why was it enjoyable ?

1.  They were ready to move in together after a couple of months, I wanted to go more slowly.  When I still wasn't ready by month 3, he began the more intense gaslighting etc.  Also, what became apparent to me after a while was that new girl much preferred monogamy; he refused to see (or maybe acknowledge) this.  I became the "bad guy" for questioning new girl's motives and wanting to slow down on co-habitation.

2.  I'm better off now; took me a while to realize how pervasive the lying and gaslighting were throughout the relationship, so hard as it was, it was for the best.

3.  Through this experience, I found out that I was more interested in a closed 1-man, 2-woman relationship than having multiple boyfriend(s) on the side.  We had a few successes like that, and I found it really fun and satisfying because of the three-way relationship.  I don't have any sexual jealousy, so I was fine with alone time for them and also enjoyed it when it was all three of us. 

You might be wondering why those other relationships didn't progress.  One was because she lived/worked in another town and didn't want to move; another was married and a third saw the issues with my partner that I didn't see, so extracted herself. 

Attention and quality time was an issue for me, though and he never seemed to understand that, so that was a challenge that we struggled with.   Still, I have good memories about most of the women we interacted with and am still friends with some of them.  Overall, I'm glad of the expetience. 
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