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« Reply #2010 on: September 17, 2022, 07:14:58 am »
I have to admit though, I never really realised how easy kids are until one became a tweenager. All of a sudden the toddler meltdowns seem like a walk in the park.

Stop it

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« Reply #2011 on: September 17, 2022, 04:17:10 pm »
Stop it

I shall not, it's true. I'll report back at 15/16 if I'm still alive.
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« Reply #2012 on: September 17, 2022, 07:02:14 pm »
I shall not, it's true. I'll report back at 15/16 if I'm still alive.
The best thing is that it is a phase. The worst thing is it lasts for around ten years.
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« Reply #2013 on: September 18, 2022, 01:15:23 am »
The best thing is that it is a phase. The worst thing is it lasts for around ten years.

Are you serious!? Good lord, Iíll run away before she does.

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« Reply #2014 on: September 18, 2022, 09:54:24 am »
Are you serious!? Good lord, Iíll run away before she does.

Exaggerating maybe a but hormones are powerful things. It seems like you go from being god to the dumbest thing on two legs. Once our daughter had her own family, her mother all of a sudden became her go to support system when things at home were getting to her, she has two daughters of her own. Her mother's death has hit her very hard.
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« Reply #2015 on: September 18, 2022, 02:19:18 pm »
Exaggerating maybe a but hormones are powerful things. It seems like you go from being god to the dumbest thing on two legs. Once our daughter had her own family, her mother all of a sudden became her go to support system when things at home were getting to her, she has two daughters of her own. Her mother's death has hit her very hard.

Oh Wilber, I had no idea. Iím so sorry, it must have been fairly recent, you guys were in California together when Covid hit right? My sincerest condolences to your family. 💔

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« Reply #2016 on: September 18, 2022, 02:49:59 pm »
Oh Wilber, I had no idea. Iím so sorry, it must have been fairly recent, you guys were in California together when Covid hit right? My sincerest condolences to your family. 💔

Thank you. Glioblastoma. A fit healthy woman, diagnosed last August, gone in December. We had been together since our teens and married just short of 53 years. I'm still somewhat in denial and angry at what happened to her. I really don't know any other life and  feel like I am just going through the motions these days. It's amazing how many of your plans and things you thought were important lose their appeal when you realize you no longer have that person to share them with.
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« Reply #2017 on: September 18, 2022, 03:52:12 pm »
That's the life you've ever known. I can't even begin to imagine such a loss, I'm at a loss for words.

I lost my brother at 35 and even though it's nothing compared to losing a life partner, I remember the anger and denial and emptiness. It's a surreal time until little by little the enormity of it starts to seep in.

Be kind to yourself and take it one minute at a time. I hope you have a support network and in grief counselling. For what it's worth, a perfect stranger is shedding tears with you today.

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« Reply #2018 on: September 19, 2022, 10:15:17 pm »
We spent her last two weeks in hospice so I have been involved with that. I did an 8 week group grief session but it was probably too early. It was 2 months after and they recommend at least three. I have been involved in a weekly walking group once a week and the core group has become quite close. Even though it has been a few months for some and years for others, we are all singing from the same song sheet and don't have to explain or justify anything. I have had them out to our place at Hatzic a couple of times after our walks, last week we were at another members for lunch and and talking about making these get togethers more often. A few of us have met at the Dewdney Pub for blues night a couple of times. Still, i feel like I am just treading water. I tell myself I have to get on with life but don't really know how. So many mixed emotions. On the one hand, I think grief is holding me back and on the other, I feel it is helping keep her alive in me and don't want to lose that. To make a long story shorter, I feel pretty screwed up right now and am just hoping there are better days ahead.
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« Reply #2019 on: September 20, 2022, 07:03:19 am »
I woke up from a nap and was like '*... Oh... Right...'

Ha ha ha

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« Reply #2020 on: September 22, 2022, 07:15:39 pm »
I love Michael Hardner personally, I don't love MH politically lol
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« Reply #2021 on: September 22, 2022, 09:10:01 pm »
I love Michael Hardner personally, I don't love MH politically lol

You have it switched around...

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« Reply #2022 on: October 06, 2022, 09:18:35 am »
Wow.  Life is hard, even when it's rewarding... and people don't like to talk about problems... just distract distract distract....

I can't blame 'em I guess

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« Reply #2023 on: November 07, 2022, 04:57:39 am »
Holy Moly... Just hosted our first kids party, ten four year olds.

That's a big ten four.

How do people do this ****...

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« Reply #2024 on: November 07, 2022, 09:55:41 am »
Holy Moly... Just hosted our first kids party, ten four year olds.

That's a big ten four.

How do people do this ****...

A pro tip I got was to keep the party attendance limited to the age of the kid.