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« Reply #1680 on: June 30, 2021, 02:32:38 pm »
Well, you may want to explain that you have been diagnosed with *something* and it's *better* and you will be *better* after the treatment takes hold.

But, up to you...

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« Reply #1681 on: June 30, 2021, 09:28:25 pm »
I both want and don't want to tell my supervisor the new diagnoses.  I know I don't have to, and bipolar has pretty negative connotations, but at the same time I feel like I have to justify all this time off work.  I know that any kind of mental illness affects how one might progress in one's career, but as I can retire in a couple of years, this isn't really a concern to me.  So, do I assuage my guilty feelings by letting my supervisor know that my diagnoses has changed?  Or just say nothing more than what the doctor's note says?

That's fantastic you got what seems like an accurate diagnosis.

You don't have to tell your supervisor any medical details, it's none of their business, you don't have to justify anything other than give them the doctor's note.  I wouldn't tell them.

You should also be eligible for EI sickness benefits if you haven't taken them.  Up to 15 weeks per year.
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« Reply #1682 on: July 01, 2021, 01:13:01 pm »
Juniper Rose, I'm sending you a big cyber hug.  Finding the right medication is life-changing, I am very happy for you.  I also agree with squid and Graham, don't feel obligated to mention it.  I once told an employer about my post-partum struggles thinking it'll make them more understanding and even though it may have, I kinda wished I hadn't.  Unfortunately, there is still a lot of stigma about these things even though they are really no different than physical ailments.


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« Reply #1683 on: July 02, 2021, 12:47:53 pm »
Thanks for the responses and cyber hug.   :)   I won't go into detail; "It isn't any of their business" is the most persuasive argument. 
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In happier personal stuff, my partner and I rented a small motorhome and took us the the dogs to Salmon Arm to visit kids.  We had a really nice visit, the problem granddaughter has left her abusers and seems to be doing much much better.  The other two are a typical tween/teen, and the 7-year-old is adorable.  :)

My dog hated the motorhome, but loved living outside.  Pretty sure he decided to self-identify as an "wild canine" - despite the leash and food delivery.  He'd park himself as far from the humans, or maybe it was the motorhome, as he could, settle down in a shady spot where he could survey the entire expanse of the local environs.  He was pretty cute.  My partner's dog just took it all in stride; her world revolves around my partner so if he was nearby, she was all good. 

This is the first time my partner and I have vacationed together since we got together 11 years ago, and it went pretty well.  Both my partner and my dog have quirks which makes social interaction challenging for them, but the motorhome really gave them both more comfort than staying at a hotel or with one of my kids.  We hope to make it an annual event, at least, especially since my son has recently acquired a fifth wheel which we can use when we are in Salmon Arm.  We'd also like to spend some time in Manning Park, and possibly in other parks in BC, but would want to rent a larger motor home.   The one we had worked well enough, but if there'd had been any rain and we'd been stuck inside it for anything other than sleeping, it would have quickly become unbearable.   

Anyway, it was definitely an adventure, but overall went well enough that we're going to try it again.  :)

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« Reply #1684 on: July 14, 2021, 03:35:08 pm »
I am now double vaccinated.
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« Reply #1685 on: July 16, 2021, 01:14:34 am »
Wasps are really a nuisance this year.  Canít sit out on the back patio without them trying to fly off with my steak!  Or have a sip of my beer!

So I got a bug zapper shaped like a small tennis racquet.  4200 volts of rechargeable wasp-killing electricity.

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« Reply #1686 on: July 16, 2021, 02:18:51 pm »
As I mentioned a few pages ago, I wanted to buy myself a nice luxury vehicle, but I am conflicted about buying gas.  But on the flip side, I was hesitant about EV because the technology changes so fast and they depreciate faster than gas cars.

After a few months of looking and thinking, I'm ready to make the jump.  I'm going Tesla model 3. 

I'm so excited... it should be here by the end of September.
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« Reply #1687 on: July 16, 2021, 03:57:42 pm »
As I mentioned a few pages ago, I wanted to buy myself a nice luxury vehicle, but I am conflicted about buying gas.  But on the flip side, I was hesitant about EV because the technology changes so fast and they depreciate faster than gas cars.

After a few months of looking and thinking, I'm ready to make the jump.  I'm going Tesla model 3. 

I'm so excited... it should be here by the end of September.

Wow! 

Iím sure you will love it!  THatís very cool.
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« Reply #1688 on: July 16, 2021, 09:01:59 pm »
As I mentioned a few pages ago, I wanted to buy myself a nice luxury vehicle, but I am conflicted about buying gas.  But on the flip side, I was hesitant about EV because the technology changes so fast and they depreciate faster than gas cars.

After a few months of looking and thinking, I'm ready to make the jump.  I'm going Tesla model 3. 

I'm so excited... it should be here by the end of September.

You could do hybrid and get best of both worlds.  Rented one and a tank of gas lasted forever.
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« Reply #1689 on: July 22, 2021, 12:21:08 am »
As I mentioned a few pages ago, I wanted to buy myself a nice luxury vehicle, but I am conflicted about buying gas.  But on the flip side, I was hesitant about EV because the technology changes so fast and they depreciate faster than gas cars.

After a few months of looking and thinking, I'm ready to make the jump.  I'm going Tesla model 3. 

I'm so excited... it should be here by the end of September.

Congratulations on your new car!

You mentioned an initial negativity toward Tesla earlier in the thread, before your test drive.  I feel the same way... and it's nothing about the car itself (although I find the styling quite bland), it's the general vibe of the owners that I find grating.  The closest comparison I can think of is Apple people. They're not just brand loyalists or brand enthusiasts, they're brand evangelists. They have some quality that I can only compare to genuine actual religious zealots, the kind who will knock on your door or stop you in the street to share their testimony. It doesn't just grate, it makes creates actual antipathy for me.

I would by just about any other kind of cell phone before I considered an Apple.  And I would likewise look at every other brand of EV before I went to Tesla. I would have to convince myself of the merits of Tesla relative to other brands. Even then I would probably be desperately seeking just about any reason to purchase some other brand before the Tesla.  I fully concede this is an irrational bias on my part. "The Tesla may be the better vehicle in every measurable sense, but I like the styling of this Mustang Mach E, and also it has  better cup-holders."

Congratulations to you, not just on your new car, but also on putting aside your biases to arrive at objectively the best decision for you.

(I am just desperately hoping that other brands step up their game before I'm in the market for an EV.)

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« Reply #1690 on: July 22, 2021, 12:22:37 am »
The amount of smoke in the air right now is causing me a lot of difficulty. I'm not doing well at all right now.

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« Reply #1691 on: July 22, 2021, 09:19:25 pm »
The amount of smoke in the air right now is causing me a lot of difficulty. I'm not doing well at all right now.

 -k

That sucks.

Does your cloth COVID mask work outside to keep smoke out?  That might be some rough indicator of how well these things work at keeping out the COVID.
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« Reply #1692 on: July 23, 2021, 12:27:18 am »
Does your cloth COVID mask work outside to keep smoke out?  That might be some rough indicator of how well these things work at keeping out the COVID.

no - cloth masks ain't worth shyte in protecting against smoke particles (that are 10 to 100 times smaller than respiratory droplets). Of course double/triple layer cloth masks are better; however, still little protection as compared to N95 or KN95 masks
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« Reply #1693 on: July 23, 2021, 11:46:18 am »
Three ply medical masks might help some. If you have forced air heating keeping your fan running and using a Merv 13 rated filter will help with indoor air quality.
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« Reply #1694 on: July 23, 2021, 01:00:16 pm »
Congratulations on your new car!

You mentioned an initial negativity toward Tesla earlier in the thread, before your test drive.  I feel the same way... and it's nothing about the car itself (although I find the styling quite bland), it's the general vibe of the owners that I find grating.  The closest comparison I can think of is Apple people. They're not just brand loyalists or brand enthusiasts, they're brand evangelists. They have some quality that I can only compare to genuine actual religious zealots, the kind who will knock on your door or stop you in the street to share their testimony. It doesn't just grate, it makes creates actual antipathy for me.

I would by just about any other kind of cell phone before I considered an Apple.  And I would likewise look at every other brand of EV before I went to Tesla. I would have to convince myself of the merits of Tesla relative to other brands. Even then I would probably be desperately seeking just about any reason to purchase some other brand before the Tesla.  I fully concede this is an irrational bias on my part. "The Tesla may be the better vehicle in every measurable sense, but I like the styling of this Mustang Mach E, and also it has  better cup-holders."

Congratulations to you, not just on your new car, but also on putting aside your biases to arrive at objectively the best decision for you.

(I am just desperately hoping that other brands step up their game before I'm in the market for an EV.)

 -k

I'm an Apple owner and I resent this comparison!  We are not brand evangelists who gush about our products the way Tesla owners do.  Many of us are just living our lives and not in any need to switch to a new platform.  For some strange reason there is a reason hate on for iPhones.  I mean, I'm not a Samsung user, but I don't despise it and spend energy on bashing it.  I know several people who seem to have a weird obsession about iPhones and convincing everyone that their phone is better.  Whatever.  They are more evangelist in their negative feelings than any iPhone user I know seems to be about their positive feelings. 

I'm a little embarrassed to do this, but I ended up cancelling the Tesla order and losing my $100 deposit.  I chickened out.  It's not the brand, or the Tesla culture (haha we should start a thread).  I actually ended up meeting a Tesla owner who was living proof of all the negative things I'd read about Tesla online.  He loves his car and how it drives but he even said the build is not as quality as some other EV's.  I feel a bit foolish, but that test drive was so amazing, but I should've given myself a few days to come off the high of it before making such a big purchase.

My search continues after all.