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« Reply #1560 on: May 21, 2021, 04:58:31 pm »
Michael congrats on the expecting baby.
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« Reply #1561 on: May 21, 2021, 05:02:01 pm »
Michael congrats on the expecting baby.

My folks have almost 10 grandkids ... and this will be the first GIRL :)
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« Reply #1562 on: May 21, 2021, 06:30:09 pm »
My folks have almost 10 grandkids ... and this will be the first GIRL :)

My younger half-sister was the first girl in my stepfather's family in 5 generations. 
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« Reply #1563 on: May 25, 2021, 10:49:53 pm »
My little brother has cancer. My younger brother, who is younger than I am, has cancer.

Last summer he had some kind of a thing in his intestine that he was hospitalized for and they got it under control using antibiotics and sent him home, and this month they did the surgery on it and found that it was, in fact, cancerous. And so now there will be some scans and stuff, and probably they have to resection his large intestine to remove everything around the area where the cancerous piece, and hopefully the cancer hasn't metastasized to other parts of him.

As some of you know I'm barely in contact with my family at all, so when my dad reached out to me with this it was a pretty big deal. I talked to my brother by phone yesterday to see how he's coping and he said he's more stunned than stressed right now.

A lot of my family on both sides has already been afflicted by cancer. Especially mom's side.  Now my little brother who is 34 years old.  Knowing what I know about my family history on both sides, I've known for a long time that it's more a matter of when, not if.  I know what's coming for me. I'm part way grateful knowing that I'm not going to live long enough to fall into dementia or similar. My little brother has cancer in his colon. For me, if it's not my colon it'll probably be my lady parts. Maybe my liver, that'd be karmic.

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« Reply #1564 on: May 25, 2021, 11:12:10 pm »
My little brother has cancer. My younger brother, who is younger than I am, has cancer.

Last summer he had some kind of a thing in his intestine that he was hospitalized for and they got it under control using antibiotics and sent him home, and this month they did the surgery on it and found that it was, in fact, cancerous. And so now there will be some scans and stuff, and probably they have to resection his large intestine to remove everything around the area where the cancerous piece, and hopefully the cancer hasn't metastasized to other parts of him.

As some of you know I'm barely in contact with my family at all, so when my dad reached out to me with this it was a pretty big deal. I talked to my brother by phone yesterday to see how he's coping and he said he's more stunned than stressed right now.

A lot of my family on both sides has already been afflicted by cancer. Especially mom's side.  Now my little brother who is 34 years old.  Knowing what I know about my family history on both sides, I've known for a long time that it's more a matter of when, not if.  I know what's coming for me. I'm part way grateful knowing that I'm not going to live long enough to fall into dementia or similar. My little brother has cancer in his colon. For me, if it's not my colon it'll probably be my lady parts. Maybe my liver, that'd be karmic.

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Kimmy the moment I got thru reading this I knew I must respond. I lost family members same way as you have just here discussed, so I know how it feels. I want to express to you that I really have a good idea of where you;re at, and I truly want to send all the best wishes I can for positive outcomes.

Please keep me/us posted.
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« Reply #1565 on: May 25, 2021, 11:33:26 pm »
Had a huge fight with Linz yesterday. It will take "repairs" to get back to where we were, and I'm not really actually sure if I want to do it.

You guys don't know me. You know that online I talk loudly and say what's on my mind. In real life I'm soft spoken and go with the flow and play a part, and the part I play is whatever is socially appropriate to the moment. I remember feeling that the fictional character I relate to the most is Dexter, because Dexter had to present this fake facade to the world, to pretend to be somebody who wasn't him, to show feelings that he didn't actually feel just to pretend like he was a real person. I sent a message to one of the members here about this, because he knows about things. I said something like "I think maybe I'm autistic. I feel like I'm a fraud. I feel like I'm just a bad actor playing a part. I'm a fake."  He told me to not try to diagnose myself, which is probably the best advice he could have given me.  But I still feel that way and I haven't talked to my doctor or anybody else about it, so I still feel like Dexter. A fake, a fraud, a bad actor playing a part.

Anyway.

Linz is a "big personality".  She domineers situations she is in, just by force of personality. That's how our relationship is. She's who she is and I'm who I am, and usually that has been okay for us because we are usually very in tune. But when we aren't in tune, she's a domineering personality and I'm a soft spoken softie who just wants to make conflicts end and that always plays out the same way and I don't know if I want to commit any more time to a relationship like that. I won't be someone's doormat, but if I commit myself to Lindsey I know that ultimately I'll always be her doormat and maybe I should just end it here rather than commit myself to a lifetime of hating myself for not being strong enough to stand up to her.

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« Reply #1566 on: May 25, 2021, 11:34:45 pm »
Kimmy the moment I got thru reading this I knew I must respond. I lost family members same way as you have just here discussed, so I know how it feels. I want to express to you that I really have a good idea of where you;re at, and I truly want to send all the best wishes I can for positive outcomes.

Please keep me/us posted.

Thank you Omni. I appreciate this.

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« Reply #1567 on: May 25, 2021, 11:48:44 pm »
Thank you Omni. I appreciate this.

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Allright. Keep in touch.

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« Reply #1568 on: May 25, 2021, 11:53:52 pm »
Kimmy the moment I got thru reading this I knew I must respond. I lost family members same way as you have just here discussed, so I know how it feels. I want to express to you that I really have a good idea of where you;re at, and I truly want to send all the best wishes I can for positive outcomes.

Please keep me/us posted.

Honestly, and I say this as someone whose blood/alcohol level is at least 5 times the legal limit right now, thank you.

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« Reply #1569 on: May 26, 2021, 12:09:04 am »
Honestly, and I say this as someone whose blood/alcohol level is at least 5 times the legal limit right now, thank you.

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Well you're entirely welcome. And I'm sure my current intake of white wine puts me above a number of legal limits. Driving for sure, but is there one for stoking wood into a fireplace?

I'll continue anyways, I have a big old birch to get rid of.

Cheers

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« Reply #1570 on: May 26, 2021, 12:14:15 am »
Well you're entirely welcome. And I'm sure my current intake of white wine puts me above a number of legal limits. Driving for sure, but is there one for stoking wood into a fireplace?

I'll continue anyways, I have a big old birch to get rid of.

Cheers

Are you going to chop it, smoke it, or make a canoe out of it?

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« Reply #1571 on: May 26, 2021, 12:30:41 am »
Are you going to chop it, smoke it, or make a canoe out of it?

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Well now good questions. Probably chop it and smoke it. However I will express my respect since I was so lucky to go to camp back when I was a kid in Ontario where I learned to paddle/kayak etc. a canoe made of Birch. reflect warmly back to those days.


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« Reply #1572 on: May 26, 2021, 01:59:34 am »
Sorry to hear about your brother Kimmy.  Mine has cancer too.  Mine’s an older brother.  Hopefully both our brothers will be just fine.

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« Reply #1573 on: May 26, 2021, 04:56:21 am »
❤️ kimmy

You are not asking for advice, but guessing on what I know about your relationship, I would say that you have more control in it than the doormats I know.  Don't make the mistake of not giving Linz the chance to improve how she treats you.

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« Reply #1574 on: May 26, 2021, 10:33:29 am »
A lot of my family on both sides has already been afflicted by cancer. Especially mom's side.  Now my little brother who is 34 years old.  Knowing what I know about my family history on both sides, I've known for a long time that it's more a matter of when, not if.  I know what's coming for me. I'm part way grateful knowing that I'm not going to live long enough to fall into dementia or similar. My little brother has cancer in his colon. For me, if it's not my colon it'll probably be my lady parts. Maybe my liver, that'd be karmic.

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A younger brother of mine died of Non-Hodgkin lymphoma and our grandfather died of pancreatic cancer.  They're the only immediate family members I know of who've had cancer, I guess it's the susceptibility and predisposition that's passed on genetically but there must also be a certain randomness and luck good and bad involved so fingers crossed.  I've always figured the alien in my chest that I was born with, a bi-cuspid aortic valve, would take me out but it seems to have gone a little dormant the last few years, if anything I've been told to expect a sudden sharp pain in my chest and back as opposed to suddenly dropping dead so it could be worse. I guess for me its a matter of where as much as if or when.  I've trained all my deckhands on how to perform single-foot chest-compressions while steering the boat home.

Every mother in my grand-daughter's family died of lung cancer but they also all smoked like chimneys so. My daughter in-law is still alive but yeah she smokes like a chimney. 
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