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« Reply #1290 on: October 27, 2020, 09:39:54 am »
Look forward to when they have kids. Grand kids provide all of the fun with almost none of the stress.
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« Reply #1291 on: October 27, 2020, 10:04:56 am »
Look forward to when they have kids. Grand kids provide all of the fun with almost none of the stress.

I will be 100 but sure.

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« Reply #1292 on: October 27, 2020, 01:21:18 pm »
Good luck MH.  I have a friend who had their second through IVF.  There was a lot of heart-break during the process but on they said would be the last try they succeeded.  That was about 6 years ago and their little boy is a cutie.  Hope you guys have the same success!
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« Reply #1293 on: October 27, 2020, 01:28:42 pm »
Not to burst any bubbles here but couples deciding to have children is a decision that should have been postponed since March at least.
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« Reply #1294 on: October 27, 2020, 02:07:36 pm »
Not to burst any bubbles here but couples deciding to have children is a decision that should have been postponed since March at least.

What??

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« Reply #1295 on: October 27, 2020, 02:14:20 pm »
What??

What? Are you stupid to the point of not being able to understand the possible consequences of Covid-19? As well as the possibility of other similar pandemics?

It was believed afterward that the man was a lunatic, because there was no sense in what he said. ~M.T.
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« Reply #1296 on: October 27, 2020, 02:23:49 pm »
Not to burst any bubbles here but couples deciding to have children is a decision that should have been postponed since March at least.

It was.
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« Reply #1297 on: October 27, 2020, 09:15:35 pm »
What? Are you stupid to the point of not being able to understand the possible consequences of Covid-19? As well as the possibility of other similar pandemics?

Oh the irony.

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« Reply #1298 on: October 27, 2020, 11:55:53 pm »
What? Are you stupid to the point of not being able to understand the possible consequences of Covid-19? As well as the possibility of other similar pandemics?

Good grief.  If everybody waited for a perfect time to bring children into the world, nobody would have children, ever. 

This is COVID-19. It's not the Black Plague. It's not the Nuclear Winter. It's not the Tribulations.  In a country of 38 million people, this virus has killed 10,000, the large majority of whom were elderly and frail.  Perhaps there's a chance that MH or his family may die from the virus. There's a chance that any one of us could die in an accident.  I could get killed by falling space junk walking home from work tomorrow... but I'm going to go to work anyway. And if tragedy strikes, the world will find a way to carry on.

There's living with an appropriate level of caution due to the coronavirus, and then there's living in an irrational state of fear.

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« Reply #1299 on: October 28, 2020, 11:47:52 am »
Good grief.  If everybody waited for a perfect time to bring children into the world, nobody would have children, ever. 

This is COVID-19. It's not the Black Plague. It's not the Nuclear Winter. It's not the Tribulations.  In a country of 38 million people, this virus has killed 10,000, the large majority of whom were elderly and frail.  Perhaps there's a chance that MH or his family may die from the virus. There's a chance that any one of us could die in an accident.  I could get killed by falling space junk walking home from work tomorrow... but I'm going to go to work anyway. And if tragedy strikes, the world will find a way to carry on.

There's living with an appropriate level of caution due to the coronavirus, and then there's living in an irrational state of fear.

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And there are people who only consider their own selfish needs when making the decision to have children. I expressed my preferences and values and you should express yours too!
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« Reply #1300 on: October 28, 2020, 11:58:15 am »
I don't know if having kids is 'selfish'.  My perspective on it sure changed after I had a kid. 

But if having a kid is selfish, then working hard for someone you love is selfish and maybe everything is selfish.

But ok - there is no right answer. 

We don't have a choice here, time is up for us if we don't conceive in the next few months, that's how the process goes.

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« Reply #1301 on: October 28, 2020, 11:59:21 am »
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« Reply #1302 on: October 28, 2020, 12:03:49 pm »
I don't know if having kids is 'selfish'.  My perspective on it sure changed after I had a kid. 

But if having a kid is selfish, then working hard for someone you love is selfish and maybe everything is selfish.

But ok - there is no right answer. 

We don't have a choice here, time is up for us if we don't conceive in the next few months, that's how the process goes.

I'm not going to allow you to make out that I'm suggesting that having children is selfish, regardless of whether you're deliberately doing that or not. My comments were clear on the decision being made in a time when Covid could prove to be much worse than anyone expected.

And as I said, I expressed my values and preferences so you should express yours.

Show your resolve and don't allow me to be a part of your conscience!
It was believed afterward that the man was a lunatic, because there was no sense in what he said. ~M.T.

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« Reply #1303 on: October 28, 2020, 12:23:25 pm »
I'm not going to allow you to make out that I'm suggesting that having children is selfish, regardless of whether you're deliberately doing that or not. My comments were clear on the decision being made in a time when Covid could prove to be much worse than anyone expected.

And as I said, I expressed my values and preferences so you should express yours.

Show your resolve and don't allow me to be a part of your conscience!

Ok, well... if I could wait a year I would...

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« Reply #1304 on: October 28, 2020, 12:26:49 pm »
Ok, well... if I could wait a year I would...

That's a very good answer MH!
I think it indicates social responsibility in your case.
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