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Offline waldo

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« Reply #1185 on: June 20, 2020, 11:17:23 am »
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« Reply #1186 on: June 20, 2020, 02:44:41 pm »
This is personal?
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« Reply #1187 on: June 20, 2020, 03:27:52 pm »
This is personal?

very personal vis-a-vis son Shady Nestor
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« Reply #1188 on: June 22, 2020, 08:59:49 pm »
For all those wondering,  shady is my son Nestor. We share no blood but he is my life. He came from Cuba (legally, of course) six years ago and lives with me in Florida. I am so proud of him and raising him has been the best, most rewarding thing I've done in my life.

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« Reply #1189 on: June 22, 2020, 09:37:51 pm »
Now that Linz is kind of settled in her new place, things are a little more back to normal for me.  I have been feeling less smothered and less stressed out.  And now that we're finally getting some decent weather, I have been able to get out on the lake in my kayak, which is a big deal for me.

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« Reply #1190 on: June 23, 2020, 09:26:00 am »
Now that Linz is kind of settled in her new place, things are a little more back to normal for me.  I have been feeling less smothered and less stressed out.  And now that we're finally getting some decent weather, I have been able to get out on the lake in my kayak, which is a big deal for me.

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Well, that's good.  I would like to share my relationship troubles on here, but there are people who know my real name and I can't risk that. 

To be honest, I have no one to confide in.   :(

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« Reply #1191 on: June 23, 2020, 04:10:29 pm »
I have new neighbours and they’re pushing the boundaries of our property a little.  Me and the old owners got along great...  neither of us really cared about where the exact lines were cuz we’re both chill about stuff.  Unfortunately for the new folks, there’s been a gentlemen’s agreement to allow a garden to encroach in an area we don’t use (from past owners) and the area they’re pushing actually has part of their structure on our property...  so when Squid builds his wall, they’re not going to like where it goes...  But, I’m sure we can resolve it over a beer or three... 

Stay tuned...
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« Reply #1192 on: June 23, 2020, 07:52:08 pm »
I have new neighbours and they’re pushing the boundaries of our property a little.  Me and the old owners got along great...  neither of us really cared about where the exact lines were cuz we’re both chill about stuff.  Unfortunately for the new folks, there’s been a gentlemen’s agreement to allow a garden to encroach in an area we don’t use (from past owners) and the area they’re pushing actually has part of their structure on our property...  so when Squid builds his wall, they’re not going to like where it goes...  But, I’m sure we can resolve it over a beer or three... 

Stay tuned...

Neighbours can sometimes be jerks.  Glad you'll stand your ground if they try to push things too much.

What are they doing to pus the boundaries right now?

You have to be careful.  My family once had a property where we let neighbours drive through a part of it because it was the only way at the time for them to access their property by vehicle.  But if you let people do that for a certain number of years it then becomes a public easement and then you can't stop people from driving on it even if you want to get rid of the access way and build on it etc.  You'd be best to look up the law on such things.

Also, fences make good neighbours.
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« Reply #1193 on: June 23, 2020, 10:30:31 pm »
I have new neighbours and they’re pushing the boundaries of our property a little.  Me and the old owners got along great...  neither of us really cared about where the exact lines were cuz we’re both chill about stuff.  Unfortunately for the new folks, there’s been a gentlemen’s agreement to allow a garden to encroach in an area we don’t use (from past owners) and the area they’re pushing actually has part of their structure on our property...  so when Squid builds his wall, they’re not going to like where it goes...  But, I’m sure we can resolve it over a beer or three... 

Stay tuned...

Hopefully. I had a new neighbour who was sure we had some of his property. I told him I didn't think so but he hired a surveyor and it turned out half of his garden shed was on mine. I told him not to worry but he moved it anyway. It was never a source of friction between us and in retrospect, he did the right thing. In fairness  to your new neighbour, it might just be a case of him not actually getting something he thought he paid for.
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« Reply #1194 on: June 23, 2020, 10:52:21 pm »
Neighbours can sometimes be jerks.  Glad you'll stand your ground if they try to push things too much.

What are they doing to pus the boundaries right now?

You have to be careful.  My family once had a property where we let neighbours drive through a part of it because it was the only way at the time for them to access their property by vehicle.  But if you let people do that for a certain number of years it then becomes a public easement and then you can't stop people from driving on it even if you want to get rid of the access way and build on it etc.  You'd be best to look up the law on such things.

Also, fences make good neighbours.


He's thinking of making an enclosure for his little doggie off of his deck.  But off of his deck is my yard.  So, that isn't going to happen without my agreeing to it.  Not that I mind...  but they have to ask nicely, since only a small section of that area is going to be their property.  It's a very odd-shaped lot.

Plus, good advice...  I'll be careful.  We have a surveyor coming in to lay out the official property lines.  I was going to do that anyway, since I have some plans to build near the edge of the property;  this just makes it more immediate.  If it comes to needing a fence, then a border-fence that Trump would be proud of will be going up!   


Hopefully. I had a new neighbour who was sure we had some of his property. I told him I didn't think so but he hired a surveyor and it turned out half of his garden shed was on mine. I told him not to worry but he moved it anyway. It was never a source of friction between us and in retrospect, he did the right thing. In fairness  to your new neighbour, it might just be a case of him not actually getting something he thought he paid for.

It is definitely a case of them not knowing.  And a case of me not wanting to let them get away with their doggie sh!tting in my yard.  That's why I'll just pay for a legal survey.

They seem like good people.  I'm sure it'll be fine.
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« Reply #1195 on: June 25, 2020, 01:38:25 am »
I have new neighbours and they’re pushing the boundaries of our property a little.  Me and the old owners got along great...  neither of us really cared about where the exact lines were cuz we’re both chill about stuff.  Unfortunately for the new folks, there’s been a gentlemen’s agreement to allow a garden to encroach in an area we don’t use (from past owners) and the area they’re pushing actually has part of their structure on our property...  so when Squid builds his wall, they’re not going to like where it goes...  But, I’m sure we can resolve it over a beer or three... 

Stay tuned...

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« Reply #1196 on: June 25, 2020, 01:46:13 am »
Well, that's good.  I would like to share my relationship troubles on here, but there are people who know my real name and I can't risk that. 

To be honest, I have no one to confide in.   :(

Have you considered a therapist? I have never tried it myself, but I know people who have regular appointments with a therapist to talk about whatever is stressing them out.  (these are people who have employee benefit plans that pay for therapy sessions, I believe.)  These are also not troubled people on the brink of collapse... they're people who you'd assume wouldn't need a therapist.    There seems to be a stigma to it... that if you're seeing a therapist you're probably unstable or weak or something like that... but the people I know who do this are not like that at all.

Anyway, just a thought.  If you do feel like you need to talk to someone, your homies here on the internet aren't the only (or the best) option.


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« Reply #1197 on: June 25, 2020, 03:58:24 pm »
1. Have you considered a therapist? I have never tried it myself, but I know people who have regular appointments with a therapist to talk about whatever is stressing them out.  (these are people who have employee benefit plans that pay for therapy sessions, I believe.) 

These are also not troubled people on the brink of collapse... they're people who you'd assume wouldn't need a therapist.    There seems to be a stigma to it... that if you're seeing a therapist you're probably unstable or weak or something like that... but the people I know who do this are not like that at all.

Anyway, just a thought.  If you do feel like you need to talk to someone, your homies here on the internet aren't the only (or the best) option.


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1. Yes, we are doing this now but... we have been together 20 years and are pretty good at sorting things out.  The therapist is going soooooo slowly ... anyway.
2. Anybody interested in hearing me out please DM me as I'm not going to splay my problems on a general thread for taxme to read  :D :D :D

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« Reply #1198 on: June 26, 2020, 01:48:14 am »
1. Yes, we are doing this now but... we have been together 20 years and are pretty good at sorting things out.

It sounded to me as though maybe you needed to talk to somebody one-on-one without your wife present.


I know what will cheer you up!  A new chapter of The Facilitator!

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« Reply #1199 on: August 11, 2020, 10:11:21 am »


I know what will cheer you up!  A new chapter of The Facilitator!


All talk plus no action makes Hardner cry in his coffee...  ???