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Offline the_squid

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« Reply #1170 on: May 30, 2020, 12:10:56 pm »
Looks like I'm going to try to switch jobs during this... just announced we're working from home 'til at least September.

You would prefer being jammed together in an office during a pandemic?
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« Reply #1171 on: June 01, 2020, 08:28:49 am »
You would prefer being jammed together in an office during a pandemic?

I don't work in a Dickensian novel, so... it's not that bad.

However the Toronto subways are nothing if not Dickensian.  I'm not 100% sad about not going back but... a little sad.

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« Reply #1172 on: June 07, 2020, 11:47:48 am »
I've been feeling very exhausted with Lindsey lately. I have had hardly any time to myself. She moved into a new apartment, so the last week of may was spent mostly helping her move out, and the first week of June has been spent helping her move in.  And she lived with me for several days until she got the keys to her new place.  And now that she is in and mostly unpacked she is planning more work for me.  We went shopping yesterday and she bought a ton of new light fixtures and fans and stuff and she needs me to install all of it.  And she needs more of my help hanging pictures and doing various repairs around the place.  And if we're not doing work on her new place, she's badgering me for sex and cuddles, or cooking for me, or taking me out for dinner. All of which is very nice but I just need space right now.

I love her but I just feel smothered right now.

And I can't help feeling a bit of jealousy. Basically her parents bought her the apartment. I'm not exactly sure of how this worked out on the legal/financial side, but basically that's the net result.  I've worked my ass off to get what I have, and she's just had it handed to her.  Must be nice to have rich parents. All I got from my parents is physical and emotional abuse.  My brain knows that this isn't Lindsey's fault, that what I'm feeling is just misdirected resentment of my own parents. But in spite of that, I'm still having a hard time with it.

Being back in the office has been a huge relief for me.  Being physically at work has been a relief from being constantly with Lindsey, but more than that, being among my coworkers again has been fulfilling. I feel like a part of my life has been given back to me. I didn't realize how much I missed the interaction.

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« Reply #1173 on: June 07, 2020, 01:20:37 pm »
I hear you.  I sense that both Joan and I are overdosed on each other, and we were used to spending all of our FREE time together.  But now it's house stuff, child rearing and working mixed in.

If it's a temporary thing, I would suggest a white lie and find an excuse to get away somehow.  Might not be easy.
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« Reply #1174 on: June 08, 2020, 07:40:07 pm »
I hear you.  I sense that both Joan and I are overdosed on each other, and we were used to spending all of our FREE time together.  But now it's house stuff, child rearing and working mixed in.

If it's a temporary thing, I would suggest a white lie and find an excuse to get away somehow.  Might not be easy.

Not being able to be honest with your spouse is a recipe for disaster....  we go do our own thing all the time.  It shouldn’t be a big deal or need lying about.



And I can't help feeling a bit of jealousy. Basically her parents bought her the apartment. I'm not exactly sure of how this worked out on the legal/financial side, but basically that's the net result.  I've worked my ass off to get what I have, and she's just had it handed to her.  Must be nice to have rich parents. All I got from my parents is physical and emotional abuse.  My brain knows that this isn't Lindsey's fault, that what I'm feeling is just misdirected resentment of my own parents. But in spite of that, I'm still having a hard time with it.

It would be super nice to have rich parents!  I have friends whose parents helped them with a condo in downtown Vancouver.  And good for them!  There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that.   Feeling jealous of someone you care for cause they have money is not a good thing.  Envy is never a good emotion...  it’s petty.
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« Reply #1175 on: June 09, 2020, 01:59:14 am »
I don't work in a Dickensian novel, so... it's not that bad.

However the Toronto subways are nothing if not Dickensian.  I'm not 100% sad about not going back but... a little sad.

For the rest of the summer our company has said anyone who wants to work in the office can, but we have a calendar setup to book time in the office so that we keep the numbers low.  Apparently even the elevator in the building only allows one person at a time.

A few of my colleagues I talked to couldn't wait, they were hating their condo life in the city.  I'm living in the mountains in a house with a dedicated office and my ex and I are have a good arrangement now with childcare. 

I have zero reason to want to go downtown and sit around a bunch of people. 
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« Reply #1176 on: June 14, 2020, 11:28:37 pm »
After 10 weeks in the hospital, my GP is home!!

I'm not sure when/if he'll be back to work but I am so happy to hear he survived.

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« Reply #1177 on: June 15, 2020, 12:17:46 am »
After 10 weeks in the hospital, my GP is home!!

I'm not sure when/if he'll be back to work but I am so happy to hear he survived.

Whoah....   that is a long time.  He’s very lucky to even have made it through...
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« Reply #1178 on: June 15, 2020, 01:21:00 am »
Totally, a few of those weeks he was in ICU.  He's not even old, he's in his mid-fifties. 

I feel like he's a friend to me, he always gave me a hug when he came in.  He was with me through both pregnancies/births as well as a few very dark periods which I can honestly say I don't know where I'd be right now if it weren't for him.

Even though it's Sunday, I **** (cra-cked ::)) a can of Parkside Dawn Pilsner and sat on the patio to enjoy.  Side- note, I highly recommend the beer if you have it available near you.  ;D
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« Reply #1179 on: June 18, 2020, 07:13:11 am »
I went to the dentist yesterday. I got my temperature checked and filled out a form swearing I haven't even looked at someone who has ever coughed. Then I had to wash my hands and do an oral rinse. The hygienist had eyewear, a mask, and then a full face shield. Everything else was the same, except they aren't polishing the teeth yet.
The mall the dentist is in was open but a lot of stores in it aren't yet. Even though Manitoba is going to Phase 3 with full restaurant capacity, I don't think there's going to be capacity for a while. Everything still seems pretty dead.
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« Reply #1180 on: June 18, 2020, 08:42:36 am »
Apparently our dentist is open.

I had to have an emergency bridge repair a few months ago and that was a weird experience... I count your post as 'comforting' and part of slow return to normal.

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Re: Personal Stuff
« Reply #1181 on: June 19, 2020, 04:18:20 pm »
For all those wondering,  shady is my son Nestor. We share no blood but he is my life. He came from Cuba (legally, of course) six years ago and lives with me in Florida. I am so proud of him and raising him has been the best, most rewarding thing I've done in my life.
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« Reply #1182 on: June 19, 2020, 04:42:18 pm »
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« Reply #1183 on: June 19, 2020, 09:26:05 pm »
For all those wondering,  shady is my son Nestor. We share no blood but he is my life. He came from Cuba (legally, of course) six years ago and lives with me in Florida. I am so proud of him and raising him has been the best, most rewarding thing I've done in my life.

Encourage him to move out of the basement, get a haircut and get a real job.

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« Reply #1184 on: June 19, 2020, 11:08:47 pm »
I've been to the dentist twice and a doctor once in the past three weeks. Broke a tooth in January and had to get a root canal. Next week I have to get it prepped for a crown. Same routine as Bubbermilly. Have to bring your own mask to the Doc. In both cases you wait in your car until called, there is no one in the waiting rooms.
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