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« Reply #60 on: December 09, 2019, 09:11:40 pm »
Good post, except for one thing missing: team politics are not consistent, so they're the exact opposite of each other sometimes but don't line up with themselves either. The new right attitude opposes world trade and immigration because it hurts working people but still opposes unions.

True.  It's strange.

Capitalism really rules over everything.  It makes it necessary for high immigration and free trade.  You can want to bring the manufacturing jobs back or significantly reduce immigration or reduce CO2 but stock markets and GDP growth demand otherwise.  There's almost no choice unless you want to shoot yourself in the foot economically. Resistance is futile. It's been that way for many hundreds of years though.
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« Reply #61 on: December 09, 2019, 10:09:43 pm »
Then why aren't there any woke conservatives?

The term "woke" is just a claim to some sort of intellectual superiority.
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« Reply #62 on: December 09, 2019, 10:27:33 pm »
Then why aren't there any woke conservatives?

I didn't say there were.   Not not everyone on "the left" supports being awake. 

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« Reply #63 on: December 10, 2019, 02:13:26 am »


Why do you think it has a lot of traction ? 

You are not engaging on that topic because it's worth considering, or it's being debated in the general population IMO but because it enrages you. 

That's fine too but look objectively at how that idea has travelled through the mechanics and flow of the "marketplace of ideas".  It's a new thing, or at least a re-discovering of an old and forgotten way that the system works:

1. Outrageous idea is developed by fringe dwellers
2. Intelligent people become away of said idea and are outraged
3. Intelligent people bring the idea into general discussion
4. Now the general population is aware of it

This all seems like a new flow that happens because of angertainment.
 

Experience is valid, but doesn't scale to the level of 'general problem'.  I believe the surveys I have read had good methodology but I will look again.

You don't have to quote a survey to get me to care about your personal and specific experience.  That is important and has a role to play.
 

I hear you and I care.

The way I think of such things is that you have to balance between:

"You can't legislate everything"
and
"We must ensure actions so that we can try to make sure [XYZ] never happens"

I am very confused by what happened here, because these are obviously Michael's words, but the forum thinks it's my post?!

I didn't notice this post earlier, and will respond to it later.

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« Reply #64 on: December 10, 2019, 02:45:45 am »
Just musing but ... I'm a bit curious why Trans women are focusing their efforts on cis-lesbians, when there are likely many women who like dick and would also appreciate a partner with a feminine perspective.

Validation.

If a straight woman wants to have sex with a trans-woman, it means she actually sees him as a man, which isn't how she wants to be seen.  The relationship would be based on, from the trans-woman's perspective, her being misgendered.  At best the straight woman is into the trans-woman because she doesn't understand the trans-woman's identity... or worse perhaps she has a fetishized view of them.

If a lesbian wants to have sex with a trans-woman, it would validate the trans-woman's identity as a woman. She would have a lover who sees her as she sees herself-- as a woman, not as a cross-dressing man.


It would be nice if all people just stopped telling other people who they 'should' want to have sex with, but there will always be assholes and free speech blah blah. Lol The only answer really is  free choice. If you're not with a person you want to be with sexually, you depart.
The propaganda will still go on, but nobody is forced (eg, by law) to conform.
Despite changes in law, there are still sectors of society who believe or preach that gay sex is a sin. They're wrong, but they won't likely change.
Maybe there will also always be Trans folk who think sex with lesbians is their 'right'. They're wrong, but they won't likely change either.

Therapy may help the girl resist the persuasion of others and do what is right for herself, the only solution really.
If there are issues of possible abuse, force or retaliation upon departure, that's a whole other, possibly legal, issue.


What's going on at campus LGBT clubs and other gay spaces right now is that there is a lot of pressure to be trans-positive, because if people decide you're not trans-positive, you're not allowed.    So you get conversations that go like this:

Gaia: "Hi Becky, I was wondering if you'd like to go out with me Friday."
Becky: "Oh hi, Gaia... I'm sorry, but I'm gay... I'm not into guys."
Gaia: "Well I'm not a guy. I'm a woman. I'm still transitioning, but I'm a woman. So if you're into women, there should be no problem!"
Becky: "Uh, I'm sorry, I'm just not really attracted to you."
Gaia: "why? Is it because I'm trans?"
Becky: "No, it's just that--"
Gaia: "It's because I'm trans, isn't it! Oh my god, Becky is transphobic!  Becky's a TERF! Hey, everybody! Becky's a TERF!"
Everybody: "OMG Becky how could you" "Becky WTF" "GTFO, Becky, we don't want you here." "Get lost TERF scum!"
Becky: "but guys, I just--"
"Becky, you're not welcome here anymore. Just leave."

and of course after the other girls see what happens to Becky, you get this:

Gaia: "Hi Katie, would you like to go out with me Friday?"
Katie: "uhhhhh  ... yes?"

Because being perceived as being transphobic means being disowned, everybody is desperate to prove they're trans-inclusive.  Whether it's by going on a date with Gaia, or by being part of the lynch mob that strings up Becky, people want to prove they're trans-positive so that they don't end up like Becky.

Cybercoma will probably tell you that this is just propaganda, that this doesn't really happen. I have read enough stories from women who have been on the receiving end of this kind of witch-hunt to know that it does happen.


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« Reply #65 on: December 10, 2019, 10:39:15 am »
If a straight woman wants to have sex with a trans-woman, it means she actually sees him as a man, which isn't how she wants to be seen.  The relationship would be based on, from the trans-woman's perspective, her being misgendered.  At best the straight woman is into the trans-woman because she doesn't understand the trans-woman's identity... or worse perhaps she has a fetishized view of them.

Perhaps she wants to have sex with him/her/whatever based on first impressions without knowing them. That does happen you know, regardless of gender, gender identity, sexual preference, etc. Peoples opinions change after they get to know someone, in all sorts of ways.

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« Reply #66 on: December 10, 2019, 07:43:10 pm »

I also don't know what alt-right has to do with trans rights.  Alt-right has to do with white nationalism.
White Christian heterosexual male chauvinist nationalism.

Like those pushing #Wexit:
https://www.msn.com/en-ca/news/canada/my-hometown-is-the-epicentre-of-wexit-i-went-back-to-find-out-why/ar-BBY0aaU?ocid=st
"The federal government we have in Ottawa is trying to disarm us. They are ignoring Canadian voices on the number of immigrants they want to come into the country,” Bell shouts, leaning into the podium. “They are introducing motions and legislation to curb free speech. They are increasingly anti-person, promoting drag queens to kids as well as telling kids there is no such thing as being a boy or a girl. And they are promoting a forced in-your-face LGBT agenda.”

The crowd, many sporting hats with “Wexit” and “Alberta Strong” on them, went wild.


It's a package deal, wherever white supremacists are recruiting.
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« Reply #67 on: December 11, 2019, 02:48:18 am »
Validation.

If a straight woman wants to have sex with a trans-woman, it means she actually sees him as a man, which isn't how she wants to be seen.  The relationship would be based on, from the trans-woman's perspective, her being misgendered.  At best the straight woman is into the trans-woman because she doesn't understand the trans-woman's identity... or worse perhaps she has a fetishized view of them.

If a lesbian wants to have sex with a trans-woman, it would validate the trans-woman's identity as a woman. She would have a lover who sees her as she sees herself-- as a woman, not as a cross-dressing man.

What's going on at campus LGBT clubs and other gay spaces right now is that there is a lot of pressure to be trans-positive, because if people decide you're not trans-positive, you're not allowed.    So you get conversations that go like this:

Gaia: "Hi Becky, I was wondering if you'd like to go out with me Friday."
Becky: "Oh hi, Gaia... I'm sorry, but I'm gay... I'm not into guys."
Gaia: "Well I'm not a guy. I'm a woman. I'm still transitioning, but I'm a woman. So if you're into women, there should be no problem!"
Becky: "Uh, I'm sorry, I'm just not really attracted to you."
Gaia: "why? Is it because I'm trans?"
Becky: "No, it's just that--"
Gaia: "It's because I'm trans, isn't it! Oh my god, Becky is transphobic!  Becky's a TERF! Hey, everybody! Becky's a TERF!"
Everybody: "OMG Becky how could you" "Becky WTF" "GTFO, Becky, we don't want you here." "Get lost TERF scum!"
Becky: "but guys, I just--"
"Becky, you're not welcome here anymore. Just leave."

and of course after the other girls see what happens to Becky, you get this:

Gaia: "Hi Katie, would you like to go out with me Friday?"
Katie: "uhhhhh  ... yes?"

Because being perceived as being transphobic means being disowned, everybody is desperate to prove they're trans-inclusive.  Whether it's by going on a date with Gaia, or by being part of the lynch mob that strings up Becky, people want to prove they're trans-positive so that they don't end up like Becky.

Cybercoma will probably tell you that this is just propaganda, that this doesn't really happen. I have read enough stories from women who have been on the receiving end of this kind of witch-hunt to know that it does happen.
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In your scenario, Becky calling a Trans woman a 'guy' while turning them down was disrespectful, unnecessary, insulting and likely to make things go sideways. Was it transphobic? Well ... ?
It's never wise to invite argument by trying to explain why you're not attracted to someone. Saying "no" already says that you're not.

I'd wonder how widespread a problem it is that a peer group that would join in and try to bully a person into dating someone they already turned down, 'shun' them the way you describe. Really?

Everybody has to stand up for their own right to choose their own partners for their own reasons,  like Katie and  'the girl' in your previous scenario will have to do. 




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« Reply #68 on: December 11, 2019, 05:53:17 am »

I'd wonder how widespread a problem it is that a peer group that would join in and try to bully a person into dating someone they already turned down, 'shun' them the way you describe. Really?


We talked about that.  kimmy says it is at least somewhat, so who am I to say?

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« Reply #69 on: October 12, 2020, 03:01:51 pm »
The State of LGBTQ2SIA+ Activism in 2020:



https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2020/10/02/sofie-hagen-pansexual-comedian-non-binary-cis-men-queer-dating-sex/

Sofie may seem like a typical cisgender heterosexual woman.  But they wants you to know that they is not! They is a non-binary pansexual person!  They dates and has sex with only cis hetero men and has no intention of changing that. But they identifies as pansexual because they has at some point or another imagined having sex with women, and they has even kissed women! And although they is female in name, appearance, clothing choices and presentation, they identifies as non-binary , because of reasons.

The biggest challenge for the LGBTQ2SIA+ community in 2020 is inventing more labels so that more heterosexual cisgender people can be part of the LGBTQ2SIA+ community!  We need more identities! We need more letters, numbers, and punctuation marks!

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« Reply #70 on: October 12, 2020, 03:06:12 pm »
Meh...   she (??) can call herself whatever she wants....  some people dress up as animals and think they’re inhabited by some sort of “spirit” and mix this into their gender some how....  If this is possible, then I guess so is anything else. 

Personally, I’m not partaking in any of it.

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« Reply #71 on: October 12, 2020, 03:24:01 pm »
Personally I’m a big fan of most of the alphabet people.
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« Reply #72 on: October 12, 2020, 03:55:04 pm »
Thursday was "International Lesbian Day".  No actual events were going on, because of the covid and also because this isn't really a thing. But there was some talk on the Twitter box about it so I decided to check that out.

From my observation, the conversation broke down more or less like this:

 -38% people posting fan-art of their favorite female anime characters kissing.
 -23% trans, non-binary, he/him people talking about how great it is to be a lesbian, such as:


 -19% woke people talking about how trans, non-binary, he/him lesbians are valid and loved.
 -14% people wondering why #InternationalLesbianDay is full of pictures of stubble-faced dudes
 -6% stuff actually pertaining to lesbians, including greetings from organizations like Human Rights Campaign and Stonewall and Mermaids, and publications like Diva and PinkNews and Autostraddle

Human Rights Campaign, Stonewall, Mermaids, Diva, Pinknews, Autostraddle to lesbians on #InternationalLesbianDay: "Happy International Lesbian Day!"

Human Rights Campaign, Stonewall, Mermaids, Diva, Pinknews, Autostraddle to lesbians on the other 364 days of the year: "If you're excluding trans people from your dating circle, that's transphobic. You need to overcome your genital preferences. You owe it to your trans sisters to be inclusive."

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« Reply #73 on: October 12, 2020, 04:25:10 pm »
Thursday was "International Lesbian Day".  No actual events were going on, because of the covid and also because this isn't really a thing. But there was some talk on the Twitter box about it so I decided to check that out.

From my observation, the conversation broke down more or less like this:

 -38% people posting fan-art of their favorite female anime characters kissing.
 -23% trans, non-binary, he/him people talking about how great it is to be a lesbian, such as:


 -19% woke people talking about how trans, non-binary, he/him lesbians are valid and loved.
 -14% people wondering why #InternationalLesbianDay is full of pictures of stubble-faced dudes
 -6% stuff actually pertaining to lesbians, including greetings from organizations like Human Rights Campaign and Stonewall and Mermaids, and publications like Diva and PinkNews and Autostraddle

Human Rights Campaign, Stonewall, Mermaids, Diva, Pinknews, Autostraddle to lesbians on #InternationalLesbianDay: "Happy International Lesbian Day!"

Human Rights Campaign, Stonewall, Mermaids, Diva, Pinknews, Autostraddle to lesbians on the other 364 days of the year: "If you're excluding trans people from your dating circle, that's transphobic. You need to overcome your genital preferences. You owe it to your trans sisters to be inclusive."

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« Reply #74 on: October 14, 2020, 02:08:31 am »
Personally I’m a big fan of most of the alphabet people.

Sure you are. You'll be cheering along with Mitch McConnell when his stacked courts start overturning equality cases.

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