I guess I don't understand your perception of the problem here: The girl has free choice to not have that particular gf if it isn't working out, chalk it up to a learning experience and choose differently in the future. Lousy sex partners who ignore a partner's needs are a dime a dozen, and deserve to be kicked to the curb.
I just don't see any undue element of coercion, any difference from anyone who determines that they've chosen the wrong partner.
I see someone who has been hurt by terrible ideas she has been fed by well-meaning idiots.
This girl is miserable because try as she might, she can't "overcome her genital preferences". She thinks she's broken and awful because she can't feel sexual attraction to her partner. She thinks there's something wrong with *her*.
She thinks she needs conversion therapy.
As trans people and their allies promote this regressive, homophobic notion that your
sexual orientation is just a
preference or a
fetish that you can "work through" or "get over", people like this girl are the collateral damage.
For a very long time, gay people were made to believe that there was something wrong with them. And gay people were told that they could be "fixed" or "healed" if they prayed hard enough, or wished hard enough, or went to "conversion therapy". The idea that gay people could be "fixed" through prayer or wishing or vitamins or therapy or whatever else has made countless people miserable over the years. And it doesn't work, and at this point has been discredited.
And finally at long last our society came to accept gay people as they are.
And that Golden Era lasted about ... 2 weeks.
Because at that moment, along came trans activists and their allies who started promoting this new idea that since trans-women are women, lesbians who don't want "girl-dick" in their sex lives are transphobic.
So now we're right back where we started, where gay women (I never see this directed at gay men, or straight men, or straight women) are being guilted and shamed for their sexual orientation-- being told they're "transphobic" if they're not open to sex with women that have male anatomy.
The girl who wrote that letter is miserable because she's swallowed a bunch of propaganda fed to her by people who care about making life better for trans-women but apparently don't give a
**** that they're making life worse for the girls they're manipulating. The trans people and their allies really don't care if cis-lesbians are getting hurt as long as transwomen are getting the sex and emotional validation they feel entitled to.
"Standing up for her" ... how?
By telling her to break up with her partner?
By denouncing the incredibly bad, homophobic idea that sexual orientation is just a "preference". It's a horrible idea that needs to be confronted and denounced wherever it rears its ugly head.
-k