While browsing articles about trans activism, TERFs, and so-on, I stumbled onto something that left me pretty much speechless: "the Cotton Ceiling". Cotton, as in underwear.
Basically, the premise is that cisgender lesbians will let trans lesbians into their social circles and their safe-spaces... but not into their panties.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cotton_ceilingShockingly, the large majority of cisgender lesbians just aren't interested in having sex with people who have male anatomy. Astounding! Who could have imagined this?
This is apparently very frustrating for some portion of the trans lesbian community, who blame it on ... transphobia! While many people might assume that cis lesbians aren't into penises because they're lesbians, some trans activists have decided that cis lesbians are hiding behind the excuse of their sexual preference because they're actually transphobic. The whole notion basically comes down to the idea that trans women are women because they say they are women, and therefore lesbians should acknowledge them as such by considering them as potential sex partners,
**** or not.
To me this comes across as being incredibly invalidating. For a group that constantly complains that their identity is being invalidated, I would expect them to have a little more consideration to others on that front.
I also find it paternalistic and vaguely reminiscent of the ol' "if you think you don't like dick, you probably just haven't tried the right one yet!"
-k