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Re: Gender Culture
« Reply #1530 on: January 14, 2021, 12:18:23 am »
Would anyone here date a trans person ?  ???

I can't say "never" to my future self but I can't honestly see it ever happening.

I couldn't say I would never, but I think it would have to be somebody really extraordinary.  We had this chat a while back, and I think I mentioned that trans people complaining about the "cotton ceiling" was one of the straws that broke the camel's back for me. 

1. It's also akin to asking "would you ever date someone you couldn't have sex with ?"

2. I don't think I could ever get excited about a ****... ever.  So for me the question is loaded with assumptions.

1.  So, I feel like there's probably a punchline here waiting to happen, but apparently I have to be the one to point out that there are lots ways to have sex that don't involve pen!s in vag!na.  Some trans people (some of those who actually have gender dysphoria, anyway) say that having their genitals touched during sex actually triggers their dysphoria and makes them uncomfortable.

2.  I think this is the real deal-breaker for most people on this subject.  Most people have a sexual orientation, not a "genital preference", and being reminded that your partner has gear that you're not expecting at an inopportune moment could be a triggering event.  Although, some people do get "bottom surgery".  I have never seen the results of that.

For me, I spent years trying to like p-i-v sex. It wasn't awful, didn't make me want to kill myself or anything. It just somehow didn't really work for me. I spent years trying to figure out why I didn't get the same kind of thrill from being with my special guy that I got from frolicking with other girls. I kept thinking that once I got more comfortable with it things would be more natural and better, and just never really did. It wasn't awful, it just didn't have that spark of magic. I went through all that once already and have no need to do it again.

 -k
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