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Offline kimmy

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Re: Gender Culture
« Reply #15 on: June 13, 2017, 10:20:44 pm »
Regarding BodyBlitz...

If this was an issue that all their patrons were comfortable with, there wouldn't be an issue. We wouldn't be talking about it. BodyBlitz wouldn't be struggling to create a policy to deal with this issue.  There would be no need of a policy to deal with this issue if all the women there were okay with this.

The one-sided InsideToronto article Michael posted makes it sound like everybody wants trans women in the club and BodyBlitz is being a villain because they're hateful.

Well, BodyBlitz is a business and they're not out to **** with people just because they're mean. If they're taking this position, it's because they're encountering pushback from patrons who are unhappy with being **** in the presence of biologically male people.  Despite what the InsideToronto article might make it sound like, there isn't a unanimous opinion on this, and if InsideToronto couldn't find someone to state the other side it's either because they didn't want to or because nobody wanted to go on-record opposing trans access because they're afraid of being tarred with the same brush that BodyBlitz is.

I would love to be able to say that I would be completely chill with the situation and have no issue at all sharing showers and change facilities with people with dongs.  But that wouldn't be true.  The truth is, I'd find it unsettling and stressful and have serious hesitation about returning in the future.

I wouldn't raise a ruckus or tell off the management... I'd just stop going.   Not from a desire to make anybody feel excluded, not from an intent to deny a trans person the chance to feel like just one of the girls.   Only because my own discomfort with that situation would outweigh my goodwill toward a stranger.

If being able to change in the same facilities as other women will help trans women feel accepted, then that's great. But I'm not going to participate in helping provide that experience. I'm ok with the pronouns, I'm ok with them being in the stall next to me in the washroom... but I don't think I could get past being in a situation where there are dongs out. For me there's a limit.

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