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Offline MH

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Anxiety
« on: August 21, 2017, 09:10:50 am »
Now that I am home with almost nothing on my plate, I am slowly filling up with anxiety... like a torpedoed submarine fills with water.  Something here may be related to rejecting a 2nd interview with a company that I was 50-50 on, and fearing there will be nothing more coming for months.

Do you get anxious ?  What do you do about it ?

I'm going to take the wife on a walk today to have lunch with a friend.  Maybe the company and exercise will work.

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Offline MH

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« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2017, 09:14:07 am »
Also, housework may help.  Wife is surfing her phone and we're co-dependently procrastinating the explosion of dirty clothes, dishes and camping equipment laying around.

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« Reply #2 on: August 21, 2017, 02:55:31 pm »
I have a granddaughter who has such severe anxiety that she cannot seem to function effectively in the world outside a very limited and safe space.  She tries to work but has not been able to keep a job and is on welfare.  She has been trying to get some kind of psychological or medical help for almost a year with no success.  I worry about her a lot.

I also see a lot of anxiety in young people and I wonder how this world looks to them.  Climate Change and leaders who cannot hold a civil conversation with each other, news that may or may not be true and lots of coverage of crazed killers who want to blow themselves and others up.   There is already some resentment against baby boomers and I wonder how that will play out in future as climate change begins to dismantle the good life so many of us have enjoyed.

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« Reply #3 on: August 21, 2017, 03:00:54 pm »
MH, I suffer from anxiety so I feel your pain.  I used to take clonazepam periodically if it became really bad but I can't given my pregnancy and it's very difficult.

My escape is Facebook, I could sit for hours on end and procrastinate and I feel awful after.  Recently I left Facebook for a few months and life was more productive.  It forced me to have to face the day head on. 

I think making a cold break from your escape and doing your best to keep busy is the way to go.

All the best, I know how awful it is.




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« Reply #4 on: August 21, 2017, 03:34:45 pm »
Now that I am home with almost nothing on my plate, I am slowly filling up with anxiety... like a torpedoed submarine fills with water.  Something here may be related to rejecting a 2nd interview with a company that I was 50-50 on, and fearing there will be nothing more coming for months.

Do you get anxious ?  What do you do about it ?

I'm going to take the wife on a walk today to have lunch with a friend.  Maybe the company and exercise will work.

I've had different people in my life with severe anxiety.  I've read up on it too.  I've also had periods of unemployment & being on the job search like most people & being anxious about it & hating being home doing nothing.  Anxiety is often caused by fear and/or anger, among other things.  It's a mood disorder, so something is affecting your mood to make you nervous very likely.  Sounds like your joblessness.  Anxiety can also be related to feelings of depression (another mood disorder).

Since you're unemployed, the best advice I can say is for you to give an honest effort everyday.  Wake up every morning with a sense of purpose of what you're going to do & follow through on those plans, whether it be a goal of looking for jobs for a minimum of 2 hours and telling yourself you'll apply to at least 2-3 jobs that day.  You need to have goals, you need a reason to get up in the morning.  If at the end of every day you can say to yourself that you gave your best effort that daythan it's very likely you won't be anxious & depressed, or at least much less so.

Exercise is good, it releases more "happy" chemicals into your brain.

The worst thing for you to do is to sit around all day on the internet/PC/cellphone on these message boards.  You'll feel like a lazy bum and feel guilty for not putting in an honest effort to find that new job.  If there's no jobs to apply to, go online or to the library & find articles/books on how to make your resume better & to improve your interviewing skills.  Make sure to also get out there and interact with people, because staying isolated when unemployed & couped up in the house feels terrible (as much fun sleeping in until 11am can be LOL).  Get out & enjoy the sunshine.  To get out of the house and feel like you're working, you could also bring your laptop/cellphone to the library (or use their PC's) and connect to their wifi for a certain # of hours each day while looking for jobs online, it will give you more structure & feel more like you're going to your office to work on a task instead of staying in PJ's all day.

Also, try not to reject an interview even if you don't like the job, just doing the interview will give you more practice & confidence for the interviews you really want in the future.  You'll also be able to network a bit.  Good luck!
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« Reply #5 on: August 21, 2017, 03:53:27 pm »
Thanks everyone.

Today was better.  Some socializing, a walk, housework and a new job opportunity have all helped.

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« Reply #6 on: August 22, 2017, 09:27:58 am »
Ok.  So for today, wife has decided we're going to the CNE ! :D

distract... distract...

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« Reply #7 on: August 22, 2017, 11:31:53 pm »
I think Moonlight's message contains excellent advice.

Also, I think the "Inspiration" message Dia posted a few days ago is also excellent.  The things the general says about starting the day by making your bed might sound silly at first, but they aren't. Maintaining a routine and a sense of discipline is important.

The advice from Moonlight, and from the general in Dia's video, might seem at first glance like they're more related to depression than to anxiety, but the two are actually closely related.

I used to have sudden and unexpected panic attacks, and episodes of depression, and brief episodes of barely controllable anger, and they are all actually closely related.  I used to have sudden, intense moments of panic for random reasons-- like, the sense that I had lost my keys or my wallet or my cell phone, even though they were exactly where they were supposed to be. Every day I would have to stop and briefly frisk myself to make sure I still had all my possessions. Or being so overpowered by anger that I was momentarily ready to commit gross mayhem. Having to go back to my apartment to make sure the door was locked or the stove was off. A sense of panic in social situations, a sudden need to escape from a crowd. For me this stuff was all related, and I now have it all under control with the help of medicine.

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