Author Topic: 45 Years Ago This Month, or When Should a Parent Tell Offspring That Other Parent is Terminal?  (Read 170 times)

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Offline BC_cheque

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In high school one of my friends had an alcoholic father.  He used to sit in a chair and drink bottles of vodka.  Her mom had remarried and made husband a priority so my friend spent her teenage years living with her dad in a neglected two bedroom apartment. 

One day as he sat drinking in his chair he stopped living.  Just like that.  My friend cried for years after and even though I don't see her anymore, I'm friends with her on FB and she is always posting pictures of him and mourning his death to this day. 

At first I didn't understand her grief given his parental capacity but over the years I've realized what an incredible need in us it is to have parents.  Even if they are completely non-functional, somehow that bloodline creates an unshakable need in us.

I've chatted with you about this JBG and I know you carry a lot of pain with you after all these years.  Even with a tremendous step-father I'm very sorry you've lived with this great void all your adult life.

Just continue holding your children and loving them and not taking a moment you have with them for granted.