Author Topic: The 60s Scoop Verdict  (Read 1076 times)

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Re: The 60s Scoop Verdict
« Reply #15 on: February 16, 2017, 10:38:36 am »

Children are children and are very flexible.  Culture is learned.  A change of cultures at an early age shouldn't create such problems.

This is what I used to think as well, and it was supported by all the 'experts' of the day and so when my children were very young I felt no guilt at separating from their father before they were old enough to really "feel" it.  Wasn't for years that I realized that even young children "feel" that kind of thing.   

It's also true that humans react differently to similar situations.   In a family I know, both children were adopted; the adoptive family was financially secure, there was no abuse, there was lots of love, lots of support.  Nonetheless, one of the children felt the rejection of her birth mother intensely and as a young teenager got involved with drugs and crime; she ended up spending almost 30 years in jail.   The other child had much less of a problem, married to the same person for 30+ years and lives a good life.     

It's unfortunate that people still believe all young kids are so emotionally flexible that you can uproot and disrupt their life without any long-term affects.   Young kids can look relatively unaffected by what's going on around them; it's often when they hit puberty that their early life experiences become influential in the way they feel about themselves and in the choices they make.    Just because many or even most traumatized children grow up to be relatively decent people regardless of their early life does not make it ok to dismiss evidence of harm that was done them and resulted in some of the kids having very bad outcomes.